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Old 09-14-2006, 10:34 PM   #1
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Masterbating too much cause delayed ejaculation during sex

I have read some threads about this topic, unfortunately all posted originally by women. I think as a man, who has this exact problem, I can kind of take the discussion to the direction that would really help me.
Masterbation has been my only way of sex for a long time and I realized now, since I finally found a love one, that this has done some damage. Apprently my hands know better how to please my penis than anything else. When I have sex with my girl, I rarely feel stimulated while intercourse, and nearly impossible to get off (well, it aint happening yet). I have to masterbate at the end. This is of course, not very pleasant and I want to face this problem and try to solve it.
A little background conditions, I am not physically not with her due to practical reasons. We will be living together again at the end of the year. I know this problem can be better solved with her understandings and help. But I also hope to put into efforts to at least make it easier - if not solve the whole problem altogether, on my own.
I have heard many theories: stop masterbating is one, and masterbate with a different technique is another (sort of remind me how I "trained" my own left hand ... sad). Is there valid sex therapies I should consult a doctor with?
Please help. I am truely commited to this relationship and really do not want an unfortunate past be an obstacle to our future well beings.

Thanks in advance!

 
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Old 09-14-2006, 10:57 PM   #2
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Re: Masterbating too much cause delayed ejaculation during sex

Some say that you can train yourself to last longer during sex by masturbating in such a way that you don't try to ejaculate as fast as possible. I would say do the opposite. When you masturbate, try to ejaculate as fast as possible. That may train your body to ejaculate faster when you have sex.

 
Old 09-15-2006, 08:22 PM   #3
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Re: Masterbating too much cause delayed ejaculation during sex

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Some say that you can train yourself to last longer during sex by masturbating in such a way that you don't try to ejaculate as fast as possible. I would say do the opposite. When you masturbate, try to ejaculate as fast as possible. That may train your body to ejaculate faster when you have sex.
OK, I read some articles that says the delayed ejaculation can be caused by masturbating "too fast" - i.e. you get so used to the fast pace and preasure of your own hand that can't be replicated during intercourse. So if I do it any faster wouldn't this cause the opposit effect?
I also heard about people form their palms into a "tube" and thrust through it, moving the body instead of the hand ... I am somewhat convinced because when I apply the technique - or anything similar in that I move my body instead my hand - the sensations just go away, not as strong. Doesn't this mean if I can train myself into getting used to this, it's a big step closer to feeling good during real intercourse....

 
Old 09-19-2006, 10:40 PM   #4
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Re: Masterbating too much cause delayed ejaculation during sex

dude, i think you're totally right. for awhile, i had problems maintaining a solid erection and i thought it was due to my anxiety or something. thats what it was in the beginning, its true that i was nervious and what not. but i totally don't think its that anymore. like i'm really comfortable with my sexuality with my girl and we do alotta foreplay. but my erection would only last about a minute or so because i think its due to my excessive masturbation to internet porn with my right hand lol. my right hand is way better than my girl friend i'm not gonna lie. sad, yeees i know.... how to solve it? stop masturbating so much or at all if you can, and practice, practice, practice being intimiate and sexual wiht your partner.

 
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