i have been going out with this girl for over a year now. and we've been doing it for a while now. i used to never had a problem get hard or staying hard i got hard on the spot. but on new years we did it and i couldnt stay hard once i put it in i get flat. . but ok today she came over and we tried again and i came either fast then did it again and it was flat. i took pill like libido max but it dosent seem to work or some vigora thing which i almost died i was so hot and my heart was beating fast just nothing there.for two months now i work 2 jobs i work in one from 8 to 3 from monday to friday and the 2nd one at nights fridays and saturdays from like 9 pm to 5 am. i am really tired get no sleep i sleep from like 1am to 7 30 am and then on the weekend i come from the club where i work and i sleep till like 1 pm. i am just 21 and i dont know whats going on i just dont feel as horny as i used to be. and now i get hard for like a little bit and then i get soft once i put the condom on. sucks for my gf cause she really wants it. i think she also adds to the problem because i usually am good in bed... she orgasms but once i came too soon and she got really upset she left my house without saying anything i felt so bad and since then i always did her like i wanted to prove to her that i can satisfy her. i dont know what to do anymore i am very anxiety prone i get worry when i get a small bump i think its cancer. should i take viagra or something?confused:
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As you stated in your last sentence, you're anxiety prone which makes you overy sensitive and creates great worry about your performance. I believe most times this can be a deadly recipe for not being able to perform. I believe you're overly worked up about it and it's probably mental. Relaxing and forgeting the problem will probably cure it. I know that's easier said than done.
Luck.
-h
Last edited by hairier yet..; 01-23-2007 at 02:42 PM.
thank you for you replay. i really appreciate it. but could this be more of a low sex drive thing? i used could masturbate for 6-7 times a day now i barely feel like doing it at all. compared to 2 months ago i am just tired. today i felt like like sleeping rather than having sex. she really wanted it so i didnt want her feel bad. we attemted 3 times first 2 times i came too fast and then i just couldnt even stay hard. after she left i just fell asleep. i think maybe if i could get 2 days off and just sleep and rest my sex drive would come back. iit just feels weird because i was always very horny guy and now i'm just not thinking about it anymore. can being tired affect me that much maintaining my erection and decresing my sex drive?
Sounds like you have mono or a virus. I'm sure her stalking out of the house didn't help matters. Go get some blood work done, take a few days off to sleep and eat right, and don't try so hard to prove anything to her or yourself. Human beings aren't machines, all of us have trouble getting there every now and then.
sounds like performance anxiety to me.. Especially due to the fact that she stormed out of your house. however, it never hurts to get your hormones checked to see if anything is out of whack. I would def see you DR.
