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Old 01-24-2007, 12:11 PM   #1
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Sex drive slowdown?

Hi all, Just curious. Does anyone know if there is a certain age at which a man'r sex drive begins to slow down? I know some of you guys are gonna say, you'll have to ask somebody older than me, but I am serious, dh is 60 and sex drive is shot. Just wondering if this is somewhat the norm or what. Thanks a bunch! Sweetthing789

 
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Old 01-24-2007, 12:24 PM   #2
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Well, SweetThing, there is no answer for that one. Every man is different (as are women!) I am in my late fifties and haven't lost my drive but need some help driving sometimes. All guys reach their peak at different times and start their downhill slide at different times, also. You didn't mention health problems, medications, stress, etc which can all affect the normal male sex drive.

Hope this helps and Good Luck to you.

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Old 01-24-2007, 12:39 PM   #3
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Re: Sex drive slowdown?

SweetThing 789,

My husband is 63, and his sex drive has slowed down a great deal in the last few years. From my research on this subject, it appears this is normal. Of course everyone is different, and there may be exceptions. He says his mind is still interested, but his body doesn't respond as quickly as it used to. He used Viagra with great success for the past two years. All of a sudden it stopped working for him a few months ago. Since then we've been trying some alternatives. He's healthy and only on one med that's not supposed to affect sex. We can't figure it out.

 
Old 01-24-2007, 02:53 PM   #4
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Yes, a slowdown is not uncommon for men in their early sixties, but several things can be done to perk it back up:
1. Make sure he is not on a lot of medications. These can really mess up the sex drive, and you said he wasn't ,so that is good.
2. Is he overweight? This is also cause for reduced sex performance. If so, get him to a gym and on an vigorous exercise program. He'll feel so much more energy and sex drive if he is in shape. Also, coupled with this, is his eating. I don't know what his diet is, but if he, like so many Americans, is eating a diet that is high in sugar and carbs, and lacking in fruit and veggies, this will really slow down the ole sex drive and make him lethargic and unable to perform. I can't emphasize enough the importance of a proper diet and its effects on every aspect of life, including sexual performance.
3. Is he under stress? This is a big big reducer of sex drive and performance.
4. Try having him take some of the safer sex drive enhancers: ZMA supplements, and tribulus terrestis. For some men, these make quite a difference.
All these things have really worked for me and I am in this same age bracket and have been where he is now, but got things turned around, thank God!

 
Old 01-24-2007, 07:36 PM   #5
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I'm 57, and, yes, things are slowing down. My wife and I still enjoy sex oabout twice a week, but I need some help from 25 mg of viagra or 5mg levitra. It's not like it used to be for either of us. I just don't work as well as I used to. But, the desire is still there. Also, check your husband's testosterone levels. This is a simple blood test. Thank God that there are ED drugs!

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Old 01-25-2007, 06:51 AM   #6
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Re: Sex drive slowdown?

Thanks so much for all the input guys! I appreciate your response.
Grehound27, you made me smile. I don't mind helping drive at all. I am a very good student driver.
Piano0105, good to know someone out there shares my woes, we'll hope for better days ahead.
Lorelle, I think you might have something there. No medications at all, normal stress--nothing out of the ordinary, but diet and exercise, my goodness. He is very overweight, traditional American junk food diet and exercise, might as well forget it. He is a truck driver, so very little exercise. We have discussed diet and exercise,
but all indications point to the fact that he would rather have his junk food and sedentary lifestyle than to have an active sex life. We have only been married 4 years, he said he had this problem in past relationship, but eventually it corrected itself,, so therefore he doesn't contribute it to diet and lack of exercise. He did try viagra, no help there, and a couple of testosterone shots, no good either.
bikesing, I am proud of you for getting the little boost that you need from viagra /levrita. I would love to see twice a week or right now I would be tickled pink with twice a month.
Anyway, guys, thanks for your help. Wish me luck! I am feeling very unnecessary right about now.
Sweetthing789

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Old 01-25-2007, 07:25 AM   #7
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all indications point to the fact that he would rather have his junk food and sedentary lifestyle than to have an active sex life.

Wish me luck! I am feeling very unnecessary right about now.


These 2 items concern me (and of course you!) I am not a junk food junkie but if I were---it would be way down the list behind an active love life! Any chance he would talk to his Doctor about this and, more important, not just hear but listen?

I do wish you luck and the last thing you need to be doing is feeling 'unnecessary' - you aren't the one who needs the help!

Student drivers are few & far between these days!!!


Keep us posted.....there is a better day around the corner.

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I am 40 and used to eat junk and had some problems. I have been eating better for about a year and that helped some. For the past couple months I have been taking Bee Royal Jelly. It has helped me alot. I was told that it helps your body produce its own hormones and has a lot of natural B vitamins for energy. I buy it at beeroyalproducts.com. I don't know if this will help but it has helped me. I didn't want to take the Viagra or other prescription drugs because I was afraid of the side effects.

Also you might check cholesterol levels. This was also one of my problems and I thunk that because my cholesterol was so high it was interfering with blood flow and causing problems (just a thought).

 
Old 01-25-2007, 01:57 PM   #9
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Hi guys and thanks again,
Grehound, we have mentioned this to the dr. which is how he wound up trying the viagra and shots. He does have low testosterone levels, but after the viagra and shots didn't help, he just developed an oh, well attitude. Sort of like I tried, it didn't work so...forget it. The dr. mentioned other avenues but evidently he is not interested because he will not go back to dr.
Shouldabnacwby, believe it or not his cholesterol levels were fine. I have heard of the Royal Bee Jelly before, but never knew anyone who actually tried it. When you say it helped you a lot, in what areas did you mean if I may ask?
Anyway, thanks again guys. Sweetthing

 
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Re: Sex drive slowdown?

The bee royal jelly has helped me stay longer and stronger. I also have become more easily aroused. I am trying to be careful and not say anything that may be misunderstood as dirty.LOL What I'm trying to say is I want sex again and look forward to it much like when I was younger. Maybe not like a teenager but enough that my wife no longer feels neglected.

I know it was very frustrating to my wife as well as myself. But she is the greatest she supported me and we went through it together. I don't chase her around the bedroom but I'd say it's pretty close to that. Like I said I don't know if it'll help but it was worth it to me. The hardest part is getting used to the taste. But once I felt the results I never forget.


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Old 01-26-2007, 06:48 AM   #11
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Thanks shouldabnacwby, that is the right answer. Congrats on finding something that is not harmful to your body that actually helps. I wish you and your lady continued happy days (and nights). Have a great day!

 
Old 01-26-2007, 07:54 AM   #12
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Low testosterone and/or high estradiol E2 will kill the sex drive.

The testosterone at his age should be oin the upper 1/2 of the test range. The Estradiol E2 should be in the lower 1/2 ot its test range.

Get a copy of his test results. Most doctors do not know much about hormones.

Good luck.

 
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You are so right JenL!!! I have also found that most doctors don't know about nutrition and how it works in the body. I have been blessed that the doctor I have now is open to nutrition and natural "cures". I went through at least a dozen doctors before I found the one that I can talk to and will "look into" most anything I have asked of him. He is the best.

When I first aproached him about the bee royal jelly and red yeast rice(for my cholesterol my, trigycerides were 697). I figured he would blow me off like the other doctors I had seen. Most of the doctors I had seen would look at me like I had three heads when I would mention anything that was natural. But I think I am on the right track now.

 
Old 01-27-2007, 10:17 AM   #14
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Re: Sex drive slowdown?

Animal breeders will tell you that in many mammals, the males stop mating at around the midway point in their life cycle, which for the average human would be at about age 39. I wonder if we humans might be trying to keep having sex longer than is natural for us, because of the cultural value we put on youth and all things associated with it. Human males reach their sexual peak at age 17 and start a slow decline after that, so men having sex at 60 might be a matter of culture pushing us to be what biology never intended us to be.

 
Old 02-12-2007, 07:37 AM   #15
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Yo Sweetthing, I have had problems with my hubby although he would kill me for telling! He was only 30 and it started when he had a pain in his right testicle for no reason, we were on holiday at the time and he didn't want me to make a fuss and frogmarch him off to the doctors, so he kept it to himself. He didn't tell me after we came back either, he just kept quite and suffered in silence, of course during this time we didn't have sex. This of course made me feel even more self concious about my weight than I was already. And finally after many days and nights of feeling rejected he told me what was wrong, he had kept it to himself because he was so scared it may be something really bad like Cancer (Drama Queen!) Of course I did frogmarch him straight to the doctors and we got it sorted, however although the problem has gone he still does worry about not being able to perform from time to time, the problems we had has effected his confidence so much and it wasn't for years or anything but just a couple of months.
So what I am trying to say I suppose is that although you may think your husband is not interested in having sex with you, it could be a deeper problem than any that you have tried to rectify medically so far.
You know what most men are like, if they have a problem with their little fella then the world is comming to an end! You mentioned that your husband has had this problem in a privious relationship which leads me even more to believe that this has absolutly nothing to do with you. But everything to do with him, I think your husband is proberbly very insecure and worried that he cannot please you, he proberbly feels old and past it and finds his comfort in his junk food which is proberbly why you believe that he is more interested in gorging himself with junk than spending time with you. The only way to combat the problem if it is caused more by the way your husband feels, is to make time for a chat with him be honest about the way you feel, and tell him that whatever the problem is together you can work it out. Reassure him that you are going nowhere, you love HIM with or without all the full set of working parts! When you are feeling the need, let him know and be honest with him tell him or show him other ways to please you, watch a sexy movie together, go buy some toys, ask him about his fantasies and maybe even act them out! Tell him of things you would like to try one day, and when he is doing everything right let him know, make a noise!!! all of these things have helped with getting our relationship back on track and above all if things start to go downhill while you're in the groove so to speak, be patient, and don't give up, tell him it's ok and continue making loving contact gently and lovingly, it may not always work especially in the beginning but stick with it I'm sure it will improve things to some extent, as my love life is much more exciting now than it was before we ever had problems. I really hope that it helps and that you don't think I am being rude! Good luck sweetheart!

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