I'm 35 and have not been with a woman for nearly 3 years after my divorce (ego was shot then, divorced due to her "preference" changed)
anyway- I've started a sexual relationship with my best female friend and when we get going and I take the time to please her first, I have no negative issues or performance issues on my behalf. However, the first time that she was aggressive with me and tried to perform oral, I can't relax enough in my mind to accept her taking care of me first and as a result I've embarrased both of us because I can't reach an ejaculatory state. She feels bad and rejected, and I am out of my mind trying to figure out what is wrong with me. Anything else we do is 100% fine. Anyone have any thoughts or suggestions or similar expieriences they would care to share?
You've been through a lot. Your mind must be grinding.
This is a problem which will disappear when you are relaxed. Don't beat yourself up over it. It is a reasonable reaction to the stress you've been through, and very likely will be gone soon.