i am very concern for my partner. I have asked him if he wanted to play well absolutely no response from him. He doesn't even attempt to even try anything at all with me. He keeps telling me it is not me it just doesn't work at all. He will not go to doctor to find out what is going on cause of money situation. I have wore things to get things going but nothing. for the life of me I just don't really understand this. I read some of you at least try things with your partner and even trying to get him to just be naked and hold eachother still nothing. I really truely believe it is me. but he says no.
Please can you tell me what is really going thru a man mind??????????
I would truely love to be holding eachother naked and not do anything. I miss the skin contact if you know what I mean.
also do any of you at least try to please your parnter in other ways???? I just need to under stand what is really going on. Thanks for reading and would really appreciate your opinion/advice.
Nah it must be you! NO, I AM JOKING! I really dont think it is you.
But I would think that he is feeling pretty low about not being able to get it up, and although he would probably like to get close to you thinks that he would be pressured into trying sex maybe.
You may be able to help him diagnose roughly what his problem is - how long has it been like this, does he smoke, drink, is he overweight, has he heart problems, is he stressed or worried, is he getting good sleep, there are hundreds of reasons and maybe if you can find out what they are it will help to remove the problems.
Has he tried things like Viagra? Any good?
Finally he probably really should go to the doctor, as a stitch in time saves 9! Might find there is a problem, and often catching it early makes it much more fixable. Drag him off to the doctors.
He is lucky to have someone who cares for him so much and this must tell you how worried he is if he cannot share it with you
The first thing I'd ask you is how old is he? Is he to the age where erections really are impossible? If not, the problem must be his. It most likely could be one of two things, he is suffering from severe performance anxiety and can't get it up. That can be very real sometimnes for men and very embarrasing.
On the other hand if absolutely nothing works at all he could be gay, but I hope not. Even if he suffered performance anxiety he'd most likely get over it soon. And yes, definately, other men do do things to please their partners in situations like this, such as oral.
It's been 2 months now. He does not smoke, he drinks 3 beers aweek. He isn't over weight just a little gut. He is in his mid 30's. He has been throught 2 marriages now. Just resently got his divorce finalled. He has not tried any medicine or anything. He was sick just before all this happened. I really do care about him and LOVE him dearly. I want to help him but we talked and he wants me to let him do it on his own. I have no problem with that it's just he doesn't seem to be really doing anything about it at least that's my feeling about it. I have told him we don't have to have sex. I would be happy just to lay there with him N***D and do nothing. I truely miss him. Thanks again for replying.
He is in his mid 30's. He had no problem what so ever before. He has told me that when he wakes up it is erected but as soon as he goes pee it's no longer erected. i have noticed lately that he has to go pee alot. Thanks for replying.