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Ecstasy430 · 03-19-2007, 07:55 PM

My boyfriend and I have been together since last May. He has two problems. Like when we have sex either he comes to quick or can't stay hard. What could be causing this? And are there any solutions? He works 2 jobs and eats fast food and I've told him that could be the cause. He works in general labor lifting furniture and boxes at both jobs. Is there anything we can do to fix this? I told him today how I felt that when he comes to quick I do get upset and wish he would go longer. He got upset but he did ask me to tell him the truth how I feel when he comes to quickly. Any advice? We've tried mastrubation before during and after sex and it doesn't work. Same thing with oral don't really work. Me on top doesn't really work all like that. This is a problem that is really depressing him and I don't know what to do? I love him with all my heart and soul and told him that. He keeps thinking if he doesn't please me another man will. I reassure him that I would never cheat. Aslo I told him not to suggest that I have sex outside the realtionship. He is trying to eat better and take naps in between his two jobs. I don't know how effective that will be? I told him he needs to find time to go see a doctor. Right now he can't because he had a car accident a hit and tun a car hit him and ran and its 3600 worth of damage. The car shop is covering the bill. But he is worrying about that and trying to save up money to move into a new place. But does anyone else have this problem? Or am I the only one? What should we do? I told him I will do some research and what I can to help but this is mainly his problem. Any suggestions?

hayfarmer · 03-19-2007, 08:24 PM

Its called premature ejaculation and there are treatments for it. Have him see a urologist or a sex therapist.

anyman · 03-20-2007, 07:08 PM

5 minutes could be a long time for some and a split second to others.

In any event, poor diet and a lack of exercise do hurt a man's performance. Work with him and reassure him. You're dealing with something that could crush a man's ego.

bobby83 · 03-20-2007, 08:17 PM

As a man I must say one thing, we never want to hear that we are not good in bed! While there are meds out there that may help out with keeping an erection longer, I do not know of any that is specifically for premature ejaculation. You stated that this is his fault, not yours. This is not the case though, this isn't his fault either. While sex is enjoyable that is not all that it is for and so there is actually nothing actually 'wrong' with him for ejaculating soon, in fact, it's more normal than you'd think. Have you all ever considered on using a vibrator or something of that sort? It really may help things along. There are also specially designed condoms that have some form of anesthetic on them but that is going to reduce his pleasure WAY down. Then again, I bet he would do that for you sometime if you just discuss this with him.

Mod-S4 · 03-20-2007, 08:43 PM

Please do not post the same question on multiple boards and ONLY post sexual questions on the most appropriate Sexual Health board. This thread has been moved instead of deleted because people have already answered.

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