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Old 03-24-2007, 12:30 PM   #1
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Question about Porn

I recently discovered a bunch of porn that my husband had been looking at online. (I posted about this on the Relationship Health Board. But I have some other questions that I think I should ask on here.) I found the porn and confronted him, which he lied about until he was forced to admit he was looking at it, due to the evidence. But the part about all this that really confused me was that it was all Lesbian stuff. Nothing with straight situations. From what he has told me and the person I know him to be, he is a complete ****-phob and even avoids my friends that are gay/lesbians. I asked him why the lesbian stuff and he said, he didn't know and doesn't have a reason. I asked him, why not gay porn, and he said that was disgusting. Was the lesbian stuff just so he could see only women? Since he appearantly he has no desire to see naked men? Or is there something else that makes this appealing? After I forgive him for lying to me about all this I would like to try to understand what makes him tick. And why was he doing this. The why really gets me. I know men like porn but why couldn't it be plain old normal stuff. I can't measure up to 2 lesbians. I asked him if he wanted a threesome and he said no way!! I am glad about that because I didn't want one. He says the porn has nothing to do with me and our relationship, it is completely just something he looks at. Which is BS because he looks at it and comes to me looking to get some.

 
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Old 03-25-2007, 09:50 AM   #2
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Re: Question about Porn

Being a man, I think I can shed some light light on the subject. I am a straight guy. Been married 23 years. Love women. The thought of two men together.....well lets just say that makes me ill. Now,the thought of two women together, that is little a different story. I guess its a guy thing. Most guys, whether they admit or not, DO enjoy looking at two beautiful women in these situations. Even when the thought of a lesbian relationship is not that appealing to the man. I think we men sometimes fantasize about having two beautiful women at once instead of just one.

Men are pigs. You know that. We want two for the price of one. While the thought a lesbian relationship is not appealing.........and a man on man gay realtion is out right sickening, I will admit that looking at two beautiful women does do something for us guys.

I promise you that your husband is normal. I don't even know him and I can almost promise you that he is telling the truth. He probably is a homophobe. He may not realize why the women on woman turns him on. I will bet he does though. He probably does not know how to tell you......and is afraid you will think he is wierd. Trust me.....he is not wierd. If he is.....then 95% of the men today ARE wierd. I am sure he is scared of losing you if he tells the truth. I am not quite a homophobe, but I quarantee you I LOVE women. While I will probaly never actually pursue my fantasy of two women........it is still there.....and I suspect your husband may think along the same lines.

Trust Me.....it is a guy thing. Check this out. Normal guy crap.

Fantasy: I am a very powerful ruler of a very power nation back in the days when the rulers had dozens of wives. I pick daily which beautiful woman I am going to have sex with this evening. But tonight I have two.

While this goes against everthing I was taught growing up and has very serious moral/religous issues........it still is a fantasy. Will never come to reality.....but is still a fantasy.


Bottom Line......Normal Husband......

Also.......I know your next question.........then does he really love me?
"He would not look at this stuff if he loved me," you say. Bull corn. While I agree we probably should not look at that stuff, it has nothing to do our wives. I love my wife dearly.

Just, I still wonder.....have a fantasy about.....wonder.....what ever you want to call it, about the powerful ruler thingy. I am a guy. I love my wife but.......If I, really were, that ruler back in those days.....and all those fine wives........

I think you get the point.....hope this helps!

That is as close to showing you how we tick as i can do.

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Old 03-26-2007, 05:13 AM   #3
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Re: Question about Porn

Thanks for your response. It gives me something to think about. I guess my real hang up is, that when we are together I am left wondering, is he thinking about what he was looking at or about me and the moment we are in? Does he use those mental images to make it through when we are having sex? This really bothers me. And since he lied so much about the porn, I can't trust what he says now.

 
Old 04-12-2007, 12:59 PM   #4
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Re: Question about Porn

yup hes a normal chap, my hubby is the same and i like gay men ( sorry for those men on here who feel sick at the mere thought but im a woman LOL

this doesn't mean hes going to stray either, hes just healthy!

sarah

 
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