My 31 year old boyfriend of 3 years off and on has absolutely no desire to have sex anymore. His brother passed away a few months back and he has had sex probably less than five times since. He tells me that he just has absolutely no desire since he passed. It is not just limited to me, as we broke up for a while and it was the same situation with the other girl.
He had an extremely healthy sex drive prior to this and wanted it constantly. The strange part that I guess I really don't understand is that he still masturbates regularly and watches porn, although not as much as before.
I tried to talk to him about it because honestly, sex once every five or so weeks is not enough for me and even then, I have to initiate it and I feel like he only complys because he feels bad. He said that he probably needs to speak to someone, but that "there is no way I will EVER do that".
HELP! Any ideas on how to get him to talk to a professional, and any ideas on why porn and masturbation is still occuring?
Wow, I'm sorry to hear about that. If he admits he has a problem and "prob needs to speak to someone", but refuses, there is nothing you can do other than think about yourself and move on. I konw that sounds harsh, but only he can help himself and then in turn, help both of you.
Could the circumstances surrounding his brothers death, or the death itself having anything to do with it? I beleive that he can still masturbate and watch porn because, that doesn't require any communication/contact, or explination/opinions from any one. Did a girl have anything to do with his brother's death? Was there a girl/wife left behind to greive? He could be afraid of getting to attached, in fear of loosing you/leaving you or you dying and leaving him. Just a thought to what could be going on inside his head.
