Hi there...my boyfriend has been on Paxil for anxiety attacks for the last several months...when we make love, he can't ever climax from the intercourse...it's always with manual stimulation. We are in love, and I'm trying to understand, but I can't help feeling that I'm not doing something right, or that he doesn't feel good with intercourse. He assures me that it feels wonderful, and that he gets close several times, but just can't...however, when we switch to my helping him climax with manual stimulation, it doesn't take long at all. He told me it's the Paxil...and when he has skipped taking it for a few days, he is able to climax with intercourse...so I know it's the medicine, but how do I get past these feelings I'm having ? I feel like he's never going to climax inside me again...and someday when we're ready to have childen, what to do ? Advice ? Any men with this same problem ?
some drugs cause men not to be able to finish. Once he is off the drug everything will turn to normal.
Or (and this is assuming he has never finished in you)
he has trained his self to only finish with his hand. a guy can become very accoustomed(sp?) to his own hand and no female will ever match that tightness. If this is the problem it will take him doing some retraining to get over it. starting with no self pleasure, for a week or two. then trying to get that release with you involved. After a some time he should be able to break the training. but it will take time.
Yes, he has climaxed inside of me before - but only after being off the medication for 3-4 days...but I know it's not good to mess with the meds like that - what upsets me is that even on the meds, he CAN climax, just not inside me...only by hand...so it's not really a climaxing issue, it just makes me feel like maybe I don't feel good to him...and he swears that he feels wonderful, but just can't finish inside me. Has anyone had better luck with other anxiety medications ?
Yes, he has climaxed inside of me before - but only after being off the medication for 3-4 days...but I know it's not good to mess with the meds like that - what upsets me is that even on the meds, he CAN climax, just not inside me...only by hand...so it's not really a climaxing issue, it just makes me feel like maybe I don't feel good to him...and he swears that he feels wonderful, but just can't finish inside me. Has anyone had better luck with other anxiety medications ?
it could be that it is taking him a long time and he can please you then finish himself off quicker by using his hand.
Its not you, paxil, zoloft, lexapro all kill sex drive and sensitivity. See if his dr. will switch him to wellbutrin. He'll be trying to hump everything in sight then.
