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Old 12-03-2007, 07:30 AM   #1
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Question: bf looking at big women

I am a 25 year old mother to a beautiful four month old daughter. My boyfriend and I have been together for about seven years and get along wonderfully. We have a wonder sex life and are looking at engagement rings and houses.
Here's my question: Last night I was looking at the history on our Internet to research something and some pornographic websites showed up. So, I don't really get upset with that. Lots of men look at porn. It was the fact that it was REALLY large women. What the hell? Why fat women? I confronted him. I could tell he was embarrassed, but I was so hurt I didn't care. I just gave birth and still have about 25 lbs to lose. His reply was,"It's the flavor of the month. Maybe next month it'll be something different. I like all women of all shapes."
Men, what do you make of this? Am I overreacting or do I have a right to be weirded out? Why big woman? I'm 5'6", 165lbs...

 
Old 12-03-2007, 08:34 AM   #2
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your over reacting. Just think if he was looking at petite 95lb women would you be mad? Are you jsut mad becuase its big girls? And he answered you, "its the flavor of the month".

I think you are more upset about him looking at porn in general. If I was him I would be more upset at you for checking up on what I was looking at on the internet. Sounds like you dont trust him.

 
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Old 12-03-2007, 08:39 AM   #3
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No, not "checking up on him." If he wants to look at porn, go ahead and do what you need to do! I wish he WOULD look at skinny women rather than larger women.
Why fat women? Are men really into fat women? WHY???

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Old 12-03-2007, 09:00 AM   #4
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Just because you dont find something attractive doesn't mean everyone feels the same way. I dotn understand why men think paris hilton is hot when she is just bones with skin stretched over her. Feel the same way about runway models. blah. (like 120 to 170 corn feed gals) So taste vary.

It may be a secret fetish of his (and if they were really big 250+ then it definitly is a fetish) Those sites exist for those guys to indulge that fetish without actually doing it because their friends would give them crap about going out with a big girl.
Generally people dont understand their fetishes they just now it turns them on. There are women who like big guys too.

 
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Why are you so bothered that it was overweight women? Is it because you are still overweight and feel an insuting connection? Or because they are so far from you that you're worried he's hot for something you aren't?

As for men really liking big women: yes, there are men who like big women. There's something for everyone.

 
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Re: Question: bf looking at big women

What's the big deal?
You are having a loving relationship, wonderful sex and a wonderful baby. Stop looking for something to spoil your happiness.
It just bothers me why some people, me included, cannot just enjoy what we have. No, we just have to spoil it! So, please don't. It doesn't mean anything for him or you or the relationship and you will do well to give it a rest.

 
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Re: Question: bf looking at big women

Flavor of the month! Hey, if you really want to know what he likes in women,
first calm down, take a deep breath an apoligize for coming unglued. We all get curious on the internet! Once I ran across a website for Asian porn. Out of curiosity I checked it out. It was quite interesting seeing Asian women for a change. What they liked, and the things they were into. If you check your computer a few months from now, and your husband was back on the same website, then you might assum he like to look at large women. Now, that doesn't mean that they turn him own, he may just like to look at them.
I've checked out a few gay porn sights, just to see what they were about! I have know desire to be with another man. It amazed me that a lot of handsome and athletic men are into that type of employement. I've read that many of these men aren't gay at all! They just enjoy posing in gay magazines, and from what they say, the money isn't bad. So, lighten up on your husband okay.

 
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