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Old 12-03-2007, 03:38 PM   #1
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Just wondering if anybody can help

Hello all.

I can't seem to get an erection through any other means than masturbation. I can sometimes get a semi erection at other times but not a full erection. I am 26 and haven't had a girlfriend in years but recently I have found out someone who I like, likes me and if I leave it too long I will lose her. I know it sounds stupid but the fact I can't get an erection is stopping me asking her out(this isn't the only reason I have reservations about asking her out but is the main one, I am a virgin as well which I have a few reservations over as She is quite experienced I imagine). I am willing to try viagra if it works but I'm not sure I trust it and haven't got a great deal of cash to splash out so would have to be completely cofortable with it.

I have thought about going to my doctor about this but I would find it embarrasing which sounds stupid I know as I am sure they have seen & heard it all before.

Please help as I am at my wits end

Jimmy

 
Old 12-04-2007, 12:06 AM   #2
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Re: Just wondering if anybody can help

Hi Jimmy,

It could be your health, are you over weight or have high blood pressure or diabetic? Do you excercise? You might want to get a checkup and see if there might be something physically wrong. Also, there's no shame in talking to your doctor about this. He might be able to do some tests on you to determine what might be causing this problem.

It just might be a diet change and excercise to get you over this. If it's more than that, your doctor can perscribe the correct ED medication to help. It's always a good idea to get it checked out first before going straight to meds..

Good Luck!!

 
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Old 12-04-2007, 09:51 AM   #3
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Re: Just wondering if anybody can help

Do you have night and morning erections at times when you awake in the mornings?
How about when you shower or bath, do you ever have erections? What about watching a movie, or reading a magazine with pretty girls? If your answer is no to all these questions, you do have a problem and should go see your doctor.
As for your new found love, take things one day at a time. Be honest when things get to the point that she wants to sleep with you. Let her know that you haven't been with any one before, so the first (few) times may not be the greatest. If she's a nice person, she will understand and put your mind at ease. Hey, and who knows! A real womens touch may be just what you need for that rock hard erection. Lol..

 
Old 12-04-2007, 03:44 PM   #4
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Re: Just wondering if anybody can help

Kalisun, You may be onto something. My lifestyle is not particulary healthy. This is something I have wanted to change for a while. I never made a connection between this problem and my lifestyle but it may be the case. I do various styles of dancing which is quite energetic but these are usually cancelled out as they involve drinking alcohol as well. I eat rather unhealthily due to the fact I can't cook but I could learn a few basics.

Cleansweep, I am not completely incapable of getting an erection. I can get erect when I masturbate as I say and occasionally at other times but these occasions are not very often.

 
Old 12-04-2007, 11:50 PM   #5
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Re: Just wondering if anybody can help

I know for myself that since my job consist of alot of sitting and thinking(I have my own comp repair business) that I wasn't getting enough excercise. I would feel like a "slug" and didn't seem to have alot of energy. I would also get very tired in the afternoon, because I wasn't sleeping well, it was that I had to much on my mind and I wasn't releasing my stress properly. I started walking then running daily and that would release alot of my pent up stress (fixing other peoples problems can wear you down alot). The walking/running routine helped my tremendously to sleep much better and awake feeling refreshed. I also had a bad diet, ate alot of processed food, high salt intake and meaty diet, which over time gave me high blood pressure. I took it upon myself to get better and started excersing more and I ate alot more veggies and fresh fruits, I also limited my starch intake as we here in Hawaii tend to eat rice with every meal. I also drank more water and limited my alcohol intake and changed my morning coffee to green tea (although I do love my coffee and drink it once in a great while). I also included vitamin B complex (Stress Tabs) and also took Zinc, vitamin E, Ginko Biloba, Chinese Ginsing, garlic and L-Arganine pills. After about a week I noticed that my energy levels were high and my sex drive was back and I also loss weight. My erections were great, felt like I was in my 20's again (I'm hitting 40) and everything else started falling back in place again. This is what helped me get over my problem. Everyone is different with different way of over coming thier own problems. I'm glad that this help me as I to was looking at taking ED meds for my problem. I hope you find what works for you and good luck!

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Old 12-05-2007, 12:34 AM   #6
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Re: Just wondering if anybody can help

if the situation with the girl you mentioned is as you said I would go for it - your reservations could well be your bane for all you know

Dont live life in regret watching from the window as it passes you by

best of luck

 
Old 12-05-2007, 03:52 AM   #7
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I find that there is nothing more than having skin on skin to get me going even if I'm not in the mood. So this is another thing to look at as I find it dam sexy being naked with the one you love there with you.
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Old 12-05-2007, 07:37 AM   #8
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Some suggestions. Planning helps a lot. Try to plan the next sexual encounter. Be sure the setting is good. Don't get into it if there is a good chance of interruption. The setting should refelct your partner's personality. Music? Lighting? A little food and wine? Timing? Maybe mornings would be good. Plan a brunch together with light food and sparkling wine. Be clean in body. Don't overdue the cologne. Wear comfortable clothes that are easy to remove. Then, take it slow. Engage in lots of foreplay. I and my wife (and girlfriends before) spend more time engaged in foreplay than in the actual act. And, usually, by the time we do have orgasms, the best ones usually follow a long session of foreplay activities. Giving massages are great.

 
Old 12-05-2007, 01:47 PM   #9
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Cleansweep, I am not completely incapable of getting an erection. I can get erect when I masturbate as I say and occasionally at other times but these occasions are not very often.
your ED could be caused by your lifestyle but you wuld hae to be obese really.

if you can't get an erection very often you need to go to the doctor and have your hormons checked. Dont let them jsut give you viagra and send you on yoru way. There is a reason why. Your t might be very low, your thyroid might be all wanky, your estrogen/estrodiol might be to high (yes guys have this and it causes ED)

 
Old 12-09-2007, 09:15 AM   #10
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Well I did manage to get an appointment with my doctor on Friday. He took a brief inspection of my testicles & said thathe couldn't see anything wrong with them & has booked me in for a blood test to check my testosterone levels. He said there is nothing obviously wrong which in some ways is a reliedf but in others makes me wonder even more about my ED. If there was something blatant at least I would know why I can't get an erection. I am as clueless as ever now

 
Old 12-20-2007, 04:58 PM   #11
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ED ruining my life

Hi all.

I am really worried about this. The fact I can't get an erection is the only thing I can think about at the moment. It is stopping me asking someone out who I know likes me. I am drinking quite heavily because of it, I'm not sleeping well & it is taking over my life!

I went to my doctors & got an appointment to have a blood test which I did a couple of days ago & the results will be back sometime after Christmas.

If anyone has experienced what I'm going through or has any advice I would very much appreciate it.

Last edited by Mod-S4; 12-20-2007 at 07:58 PM. Reason: Threads merged (do not start a new thread if you have a current one on the same topic). Thanks.

 
Old 12-20-2007, 06:06 PM   #12
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Re: ED ruining my life

well first off stop all the drinking, that can cause ED, and go ahead and ask her out even if you can't get it up she will have more respect for you if your just openly honest if you have to be as for as your ED.
THIS IS CUREABLE AND WAITING ON YOUR TEST IS HARD FOR YOU I REALIZE THAT! BUT IN THE MEAN TIME TRY STOP DRINKING AND DO EAT HEALTHY/EXERCISE.
Stop dwelling....get your mind off this,at least until your test come back, take her out for dinner, get to know her ect,,ect,,

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Old 12-21-2007, 07:19 AM   #13
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Hi all.

I am really worried about this. The fact I can't get an erection is the only thing I can think about at the moment. It is stopping me asking someone out who I know likes me. I am drinking quite heavily because of it, I'm not sleeping well & it is taking over my life!

I went to my doctors & got an appointment to have a blood test which I did a couple of days ago & the results will be back sometime after Christmas.

If anyone has experienced what I'm going through or has any advice I would very much appreciate it.
stressing yoruself will jsut add to the problem and drinking will not help at all.

 
Old 12-26-2007, 04:44 PM   #14
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Thank you Bengie & Chevyman. I haven't been online for a while.

I have asked her out & we are going out tomorrow night The blood test still isn't back & I may go pick up some viagra on my lunch as a temporary solution. In all honesty I'm hoping nothing along that line happens tomorrow night as I would rather have the results of the blood test before I sleep with her but if it happens it happens & iI suppose I need to be prepared for it!

I am feeling better about myself than I was a few days ago. I haven't stopped drinking but that has been mainly due to Christmas and not anxiety so I will cut down now!

Thanks again for your advice people

 
Old 12-28-2007, 12:34 AM   #15
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I've had similar problems since I was a teenager - usually due to stress. The best thing I"ve found is to talk to the woman about it. I'm currently dating a girl as well, and we have yet to take it that far also.... I'm experienced and thinking you're lucky - saying you're a virgin sound better than my story, but maybe not.... Anyway, I've found that when I'm with a girl a few times the problem goes away - I guess once I believe she likes me for who I really am, and not some superficial reason... this is hard to learn from her, especially if, like me, you need to be accepted by her sexually as part of feeling good about yourself. You and I both need to just take a chance, remember that being honest does not have to come across like you're a wimp, and that most women would rather be with a man who has a little trouble the first few times than a guy who easily screws her and then leaves her feeling like dirt. If you care about this girl even a little, it's worth it to take a chance - you'll be glad you did.

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