Re: 35 and suffering from severe ED
Man I am so sorry to hear of your difficulties. I know how you feel because I suffered almost the same thing you described. I was in a relationship with my ex-wife for 17 years and never once had a problem with erectile difficulty. After the divorce, what you've described happened to me. I did a lot of reading on the subject and found a variety of answers and suggestions as to what might have happened. One I read suggested that sometimes when a man has been divorced and hasn't been sexually active for a while, he can sometimes lose his sexual confidence or suffer from performance anxiety with a new partner. If he fails to acheive an erection with a woman, and he gets embarrased or humiliated by that experience, the next time he tries the same thing is very likely to happen again, but may be even worse. Kind of like a snowball effect. You might become so afraid that you won't be relaxed or be able to perform that you actually can't. Like you said, I believe sometimes it can be a mental thing, a mind ove matter situation. It's amazing how powerful the mind can be sometimes.
From what you've described, especially since you had no problems before, it sounds like it might be phychological.
Best of luck to you.