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lexus2008 12-05-2007 12:15 AM

Too much masturbation = low sex drive?
 
I am 25 and sometimes I have trouble getting an erection with my girlfriend of 3 months. At first I thought I had ED but when I'm by myself, I have no problem "getting hard". When I'm with her, most of the time I have trouble "getting hard". Most of the time I use Cialis or Viagra to get hard so she doesn't get frustrated. I was wondering if too much masturbation leads to low sex drive AND inability to get an erection?

tattman 12-05-2007 03:48 AM

Re: Too much masturbation = low sex drive?
 
What I think you are going through is a little bit of performance worries. If you can get hard alone then with the woman of your heart should easily get you interested. So sit back and enjoy it. Let her know how you are feeling and maybe if you can ejaculate first wait a little while then more pressure will be off. And on the other hand you could always get her off first so if you don't last too long thing can only get better.
When we were young I treated my wife first as I couldn't last too long as I worried to. But over the time I have got it under control. doing it these ways. But you have to work out what works for the pair of you.

Bengie 12-05-2007 09:09 AM

Re: Too much masturbation = low sex drive?
 
since you are ok by yourself and not with the gf, sounds like performance anxiety. taking viagra/cealis will not help you over come it and may become a crutch and make it even harder for you to over come. You should talk to your gf and tell her about this and ask her if she will help you over come it. Most decent gf will be helpful and understand.

I took two weeks and having sex with only the gf (no self pleasure)to break it. took a week of no self pleasure to make me keep a hardon. Then another week to actually finish in front of another person. my boys were so sore by the end of that second week I could barely walk or stand to put on pants. When I was finally able to finish it was the best orgasm I've ever had! (we were trying 3x a day morning noon and night for 2 weeks.)

lexus2008 12-05-2007 12:17 PM

Re: Too much masturbation = low sex drive?
 
Bengie

Thanks for the advice...I tried Viagra/Cialis it sometimes work but I don't want to keep taking it. I know that we love each other very much and she does understand and I love her for that. The first time it happened she kind of giggled and said that has never happened to her before. But, I kind of understood her. This week I will try not to masturbate and see how it goes. Maybe my sex drive will be higher if I have no self pleasure and just do it with my gf. I don't know...But I'll see for myself.

Thanks again

lexus2008 12-05-2007 12:22 PM

Re: Too much masturbation = low sex drive?
 
Tattman

I can last long but I have to get it hard first, and that seems to be the problem when I'm with her. She is an understanding woman though and I'm glad for that. I know that us guys always are better the second time around. I try to do alot of foreplay and pleasure her first manually so she will come first. But then when it's my turn....it won't get hard sometimes.

Is it too much foreplay? I don't know......

Thanks for the advice

Bengie 12-05-2007 01:37 PM

Re: Too much masturbation = low sex drive?
 
[QUOTE=lexus2008;3337535]Bengie

Thanks for the advice...I tried Viagra/Cialis it sometimes work but I don't want to keep taking it. I know that we love each other very much and she does understand and I love her for that. The first time it happened she kind of giggled and said that has never happened to her before. But, I kind of understood her. This week I will try not to masturbate and see how it goes. Maybe my sex drive will be higher if I have no self pleasure and just do it with my gf. I don't know...But I'll see for myself.

Thanks again[/QUOTE]

its not really sex drive. if it was sex drive you wouldnt' want to have sex period. It wouldn't matter if you could or not.

doing lots of foreplay and getting her off first is great! Means you are a good guy. You just have to not think about what you are doing when it comes to your turn. Just do it. dont think.

lexus2008 12-06-2007 06:20 AM

Re: Too much masturbation = low sex drive?
 
Yes Bengie....

Sometimes I think too much. I talked about this at work with my friend, and he said the same thing. He said don't think, just do it. I remember with my ex-gf, I could get hard very easily with her. Maybe because I wasn't thinking at all??

Bengie 12-06-2007 09:59 PM

Re: Too much masturbation = low sex drive?
 
[QUOTE=lexus2008;3338688]Yes Bengie....

Sometimes I think too much. I talked about this at work with my friend, and he said the same thing. He said don't think, just do it. I remember with my ex-gf, I could get hard very easily with her. Maybe because I wasn't thinking at all??[/QUOTE]

yep our minds play big tricks on us. I'm not a three pump and done guy. i take a while. but, as soon as I think I'm taking to long and i mean as soon as that pops in my head I lose the erection. (this usually only happens during oral)

and its much easier to say not think about it and just do it then to just do it. lol The best way is to just lose yourself in the moment


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