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Old 12-07-2007, 12:18 PM   #1
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lost my confident

i have had a very high sex drive..... when i was with my x-girlfriend... we almost did it everyday and i use to get horny by a click of a finger when she use to sit next to me..... after i broke up i meet another girl and we started havin sex almost like 2-3 times a week.... and then we broke up again ... but now days it seems like nothing makes me horny and it really takes time to get me in the mood or to get my penis harder.... as before use to be as hard as a rock..... i dont understand it why.... have i lost my confident or have i used to much energy on my sex drive... and i m getting very worried as if i would get into anther relationship and i wont perform as good as before it would make me dissapoted...

please give any advice you have it will be very greatful

 
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Old 12-07-2007, 01:22 PM   #2
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Re: lost my confident

if you are having a hard time getting yourself hard to masturbate you might be having some hormon problems. If you have gained a lot of weight recently that can cause it also.

I would suggest you go to the doctor and explain that you are having some ED problems. If the doctor just gives you viagra and sends you on your way, demand that he test your hormons to make sure nothing is going on. dont let them blow you off.

 
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Old 12-07-2007, 02:07 PM   #3
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Re: lost my confident

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if you are having a hard time getting yourself hard to masturbate you might be having some hormon problems. If you have gained a lot of weight recently that can cause it also.

I would suggest you go to the doctor and explain that you are having some ED problems. If the doctor just gives you viagra and sends you on your way, demand that he test your hormons to make sure nothing is going on. dont let them blow you off.


is it something serious... i m only 24 years old..... and it keep getting worried... i mean i can get hard but it takes a while till it gets me in the mood...

 
Old 12-08-2007, 01:41 PM   #4
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if you are having a hard time getting yourself hard to masturbate you might be having some hormon problems. If you have gained a lot of weight recently that can cause it also.
can a loss of a lot of weight also cause this problem?

 
Old 12-13-2007, 10:28 PM   #5
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Re: lost my confident

Do you still have the problem? Sometimes it can just take time, even up to 2 weeks.

At 24, it's almost 100% guaranteed to be something psychological, and nothing mechanically wrong. Psychological is tough sometimes because it's easy to get into a negative loop, where you've lost your confidence and it effects you to the point you don't perform as well, so your confidence level goes down, so now you don't perform as well, ad infinitum and it's one vicious circle.

Has anything else recently changed in your life, that has the remote possibility of causing stress or anxiety - even if you don't conciously feel stressed, if it's affecting you it can cause the same problems your describe.

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Old 12-15-2007, 06:44 AM   #6
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Do you still have the problem? Sometimes it can just take time, even up to 2 weeks.

At 24, it's almost 100% guaranteed to be something psychological, and nothing mechanically wrong. Psychological is tough sometimes because it's easy to get into a negative loop, where you've lost your confidence and it effects you to the point you don't perform as well, so your confidence level goes down, so now you don't perform as well, ad infinitum and it's one vicious circle.

Has anything else recently changed in your life, that has the remote possibility of causing stress or anxiety - even if you don't conciously feel stressed, if it's affecting you it can cause the same problems your describe.

i have been stressin for a while yes... does that effect too....?

 
Old 12-18-2007, 08:19 PM   #7
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Re: lost my confident

I've been having a similar problem too for about a year now! Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, and sometimes it works but goes down south right in the middle of sex. I don't understand why this is happening? I've never had a problem before but for the past year my "boy" hasn't been functioning properly, and I'm only 27. I need some help, and I don't want to use any pills...what can do?

 
Old 12-19-2007, 02:55 PM   #8
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I've been having a similar problem too for about a year now! Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, and sometimes it works but goes down south right in the middle of sex. I don't understand why this is happening? I've never had a problem before but for the past year my "boy" hasn't been functioning properly, and I'm only 27. I need some help, and I don't want to use any pills...what can do?
to all the guys on this thread that are having this problem. answer theese questions.
1) are you having morning erections?
2)can you get hard to masturbate at the same rate you could or used to?
3)have a loss of libido (the desire to have sex or masturbate)
4)feeling less energetic then you used to or down right fatigued

Then you very well could have a hormon problem. Yes guys in there 20's can have hormon problems. Stress can also play into it but with stress you would still be getting morning wood. Same thing with any type of anxiety problem.

Things you can try
if you are over weight lose the weight
go to the gym and lift weight. Leg workouts really get the blood pumping if you know what I mean. but all heavy weight lifting causes an increasing in T.
If you smoke (tobacco or ***) stop.

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Old 12-20-2007, 03:59 PM   #9
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Re: lost my confident

i m a healthy guy normal 75 kilo and tall 1.80 ... as viao said ... i have simaler problems... but i think its getting a lil better i havent used any pills.... but yeah sometime in the middle of the sex it can go down south... but i need sometime to relax so i can get back and it gets harder... thats all for now...

and thnx to all those who posted here its been very helpfull


regards

 
Old 12-28-2007, 01:22 AM   #10
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Re: lost my confident

Stress has totally affected my performance in the past - even when I was losing my virginity at 16 I could barely get an erection, I was so stressed! After time I realized that the more time I spent with a girl the less stressed I got and the easier it was to get an erection. Single again, I have some similar worries about being stressed, and I'm focusing on staying relaxed and remembering that the women out there are as worried as we are, and it's often okay to tell them you're a little nervous and want to move slowly. It sounds counterintuitive, but women respond better to sincerity than lies, and you can't just avoid women altogether, or you won't be happy!

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