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Old 12-24-2007, 12:16 AM   #1
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Prem. Ejac. and more ....

Hi

I am 23. I am unmarried and haven't had sex (which is common in my culture). However, I have been masturbating regularly since I was 14 or 15.

My problem....I can summarize in 3 points (i hope they are all related and some treatment will get rid of all 3 problems)

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1, When not erect, my penis is very small (it is shortened so much so that there are several visible "folds" on the skin -- only when non-erect), very dark in color and I can see small veins/arteries on the surface
In summary, I can very much see that the blood supply to my penis is very less, when non-erect.

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2, When I am in the toilet (when there is a bowel movement), my penis drips throughout the process. I have to keep on wiping the tip of my penis with a tissue. The liquid is not pure urine for sure. At the end, when I look in to the toilet, I can see that it is a sticky substance (sticks to the toilet). Looks like a mixture of semen and urine, to me. Even if this dripping is not connected to any sexual problem, it still is a tedious process wiping my penis every 10 seconds(This slight dripping also occurs when I get erect and not masturbate; after the erection dies down and penis becomes smaller, it drips. But a whole lot more fluid is lost while I am in toilet).
After having a bowel movement, I cannot/don't feel like doing masturbation. It is as if, the lost fluid has taken away all my energy/semen with it. Though the penis doesn't really hurt, I do feel a little weird sensation/burn after losing fluid (in toilet).

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3, I kept this one for last. But this, to me is probably the biggest of all problems. Regardless of any of the above, at all times........I have an average ejaculation time of 15 seconds.
Say, I am stimulated and get erect (maybe having touched the penis a few times); then I go to the washroom and masturbate.......it ejaculates in 15 seconds or so. Well, if I count the time from the point where my penis is non-erect, it might take about 40 or 45 seconds to ejaculate.

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I think the premature ejaculation problem I have has been acquired gradually over the years. I probably had longer ejaculation times when I was 15 or 16..I think, it began decreasing over the time.

I am healthy in all other respects.

I did go to the urologist regarding this. He seemed to think that nothing was serious. He had me take a blood test. He told me that there was some imbalance with my thyroid levels. I am supposed to have another test in a month. Also, an UltraScan proved that everything was okay with my penis, physically.
Following his advice, I did try CIALIS tablets for a couple of weeks. It helped me get erect even better (even when I really didn't want to); but it did NOT help with any of the above 3 problems.

I don't think (and I hope) that I don't have STD. I haven't had sex at all. Isn't it impossible that I can have STD?


I was not satisfied with the urologist. However, I will see how it goes.

But I would like to get some advice from you. Please help.


(please feel free to ask me for any more info)

 
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Old 12-24-2007, 07:28 AM   #2
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1, When not erect, my penis is very small (it is shortened so much so that there are several visible "folds" on the skin -- only when non-erect),
sounds quite normal. A flaccid penis must have enough skin to allow for an erection. The measurement when flaccid is really irrelevent. Some men gain a lot of size when becoming erect. Others, not so much. I wouldn;t worry about it from what you have provided.


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2, When I am in the toilet (when there is a bowel movement), my penis drips throughout the process.
Well, quit wiping it until you are done. It simply sounds like a release of semen. Not unusual due to the proximity of the prostate and the rectum. Applying pressure to urge evacuation will cause the prostate to be pressed as well and the seminal vesicles are a holding tank for your semen. When they get pressed, it can sqeeze this semen into your prostate and into your urethra.


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3, I kept this one for last. But this, to me is probably the biggest of all problems. Regardless of any of the above, at all times........I have an average ejaculation time of 15 seconds.
Does sound a bit quick. I am curious, is masturbation frowned upon in your society? If so, you may have simply developed a means to relieve yourself very quickly to avoid possible detection.

Other than that, you may simply be getting yourself overly excited. The mind plays a very large part in ejaculation. You may also want to try a desensitizing creme on your penis. It will lessen the physical stimulation and is used to delay ejaculation for those that are too easily overstimulated physically.

All in all, it does not sound like you have any great problems.
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Old 12-24-2007, 10:44 AM   #3
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Re: Prem. Ejac. and more ....

Bettermind,

#1 is normal, not to worry. Just be sure to keep it all clean.

#2 Is this fluid clear or white? If clear, it is normal, especially if you are having a bowel movement after having any sexual thoughts. Cowper's glands will secrete pre-ejaculatory fluid with only sexual thoughts without having an erection. If you produce a lot of pre-ejaculatory fluid normally during erection and prior to ejaculation, this is completely normal. The proximity of the Cowper's glands near the rectum is what causes this. Any type of anal stimulation will cause this and certainly a bowel movement will do so as well.

If what is coming out is white, and you have had no sexual activity, a doctor should investigate further. Did the urologist take a urine sample? Although you may not have an STD you may still have a UTI. Urinary Tract Infections have many causes. With all the wiping of your penis, you may indeed have picked up an infection as there may have been some bacteria on the toilet paper. A UTI is a major cause of that "weird burning sensation" you feel if STD have been ruled out. Your doctor should give you at a minimum a 10 day course of antibiotics to clear that up. It can spread back into your testicles and get progressively worse so that needs to be taken care of asap.

#3 Yes, that is too fast. You need to take your time and enjoy your body's sensations without rushing to ejaculation. You need to develop the sense of, and difference between an orgasm and an ejaculation. You need to back off when you feel yourself getting close, back off for a minute, and then work up to that point again and then back off again. After you have practiced this many, many times, it will make you a great lover and when you do finally have sex, your partner will appreciate it and it will be much more enjoyable for both of you.

 
Old 12-24-2007, 12:39 PM   #4
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Re: Prem. Ejac. and more ....

As been said by everyone else:
Your penis size sounds normal, even if small, that's normal. The dripping penis before/after/ and during bowel movement is not unusual as well. I sometimes experience the dripping during a bowel movement myself. Not all the time, but every so often. When I was younger, at your age this would happen quite often. As I got older(now 49) it happens maybe once every other month or so, depending on the bm/pressure. Speaking for my on experience, it has always been a pleasurable feeling. I was only concerned at the time, if it was normal! I talked to a urologist about it during an exam, and he assured me that it was normal, and not to worry. So with that said, I didn't.
The constant dripping while sitting is new to me, but like the last post said, you may have a simple infection. Otherwise, you just may be a heavy dripper.LOL.. I would suggest, however like the last poster said, to stop wipping so much during the drip! It going in the toilet, so just let it all drip out until it's finished. I felt just the opposit of being/feeling drained after the pre-calm experience, it made me more excited! Anyway, long story short, after you have seen a couple of doctor's and getting a clean bill of health you should know longer worry about it. Every ones body reacts different at times to stimulation.

 
Old 12-27-2007, 03:39 AM   #5
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Re: Prem. Ejac. and more ....

Hi Friends.......thanks to all of you for responding. I am happy to know that the above are not symptoms of a major problem.

To answer your questions........

yes, it is usually frowned upon.....hence, i guess i just developed the "quickie" habit.

and the fluid dripping in to the toilet is NOT white; is clear like semen (should be semen).


Now I will follow your advice regarding Desensitizing cream and also the Stop Start technique to solve the problem of Premature Ejac.

But the fluid dripping in toilet is really a problem. It certainly is a bad feeling on the penis; feels like i have lost the juice; no more interest in stimulation. Well the thing is, it does not matter if I have had a sexual feeling before going to toilet. EVEN WHEN NOT, it still drips semen..........how can i stop it?

Thanks again guyz.......very helpful indeed

 
Old 12-29-2007, 01:42 AM   #6
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Re: Prem. Ejac. and more ....

Also..........do you guyz have any suggestion regarding which desensitizing cream to buy? I guess, you don't need a prescription to get that; right?

 
Old 12-29-2007, 08:18 PM   #7
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Re: Prem. Ejac. and more ....

Not sure what you have avaialble in Canada. Here in the states there are cremes such as Detain, Sta-Hard, and I am sure many many more. Most larger department stores have them available right on the shelf.
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