Dinosaur2

Well, from my perspective as a guy, the same thing happens in love making with my wife. I think there might be several possible reasons. It might be an ego thing; e.g., I have such an overriding sense of wanting to been appreciated for doing a good job in bed, which is to see that my wife is satisfied, I don't want to put myself in a position of not being able and once I've ejaculated my drive diminshes most of the time. It has happened, where I've been in the mood to continue on right after an orgasm, but most of the time, I just feel so relaxed after ejaculating that I just want to rest in the euphoria, maybe cuddle, or just be there in each other's arms. If she had not achieved an orgasm first, I would not feel fulfilled, even if I had had an orgasm. So, I always strive to have her have an orgasm first, so that I can be sure it happens before I poop out. It could also be that he doesn't want to ejaculate in your mouth, out of respect for you. It could also be that the stimulations aren't such that they bring him to ejaculation. When a guy is in charge of the action, so to speak, he can orchestrate the movements in such a way as to maximize the way his penis is being stimulated. For example, there are subtle things that a lover can do for me that really enhances an orgasm for me, but they are things that they have to bring to the table. I would not ask for them. I guess this may also be an ego thing. You know, I'm a man, I should be able to achieve an orgasm whenever I want, so I would never ask that something else needs to be done in order for me to do so. I can't go into detail, since we are not supposed to provide how to's in this forum, but I can assure you that if someone was performing oral sex on me and incorporated these things, it would lead to a super powerful orgasm, no matter what. Maybe you should tell your husband or bf that you really want to satisfy him in this way and just ask him to relax and just let it happen. Be sure to ask him if there is something you could do in addition to what you are doing that will make it happen. Let him know that you want the focus to be on him this time. Who knows! We're complicated creatures, maybe more so than the women. Hope this helps both of you.

I agree with Shawley. And, since his comments weren't edited out, I'll add mine. [deleted] Bet your guys won't be able to hold back if you combine mine and Shawley's suggestions. Let us know, if you try it.