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Old 01-18-2008, 05:23 PM   #1
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Red face issues with disabled masturbation

i am a guy in my 20s who is disabled. i am confined to a wheelchair, am very weak etc and have caregivers with me constantly. my problem stems from the fact that despite my disability i am a typical male, and dont have a girlfriend so my only sexual outlet is masturbation. so im just wondering what the best way to broach the subject with my caregivers is. most of them are pretty cool and dont freak out about the fact that i drink and stuff like that but its just am embarrassing issue. i mean they will have to put me in a position where i can reach my package, clean me up afterwards and so on but i can do the deed myself while they are in the other room. is this an appropriate thing for me to be asking? is there a way i can ask it with minimal embarrassment on both sides? what would you do in my situation?

 
Old 01-18-2008, 09:52 PM   #2
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Re: issues with disabled masturbation

If it were me, I would show them what you just posted.
It is eloquently expressed, and says it all. Ask them what they think about it.
The guys especially should be able to imagine that you might have these needs.
It is like hunger, thirst, etc. It is not, in my opinion, inappropriate to ask.
You might want to feel them out by joking about it, and see how they react.
If things don't work out, figure out a way to get them to put you in that position, and a way to ask for some alone time.
Best of luck to you with this.

 
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Old 01-22-2008, 01:08 AM   #3
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Re: issues with disabled masturbation

It must be a very hard thing to have to ask strangers to help with, and as your carers change you have to go through the whole thing again.

But, if they are caring for you to the extent that it sounds like they are, then they are probably already looking after your continence so this is perhaps less embarassing that it actually sounds. Do you have a Disablitly Accociation in the US that would offer advice on this sort of care? It must have come up before!!

 
Old 01-22-2008, 02:15 PM   #4
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Re: issues with disabled masturbation

well thank you all for the advice. i decided to just suck it up and ask my caregivers if they were cool with it. and they were, so no worries

 
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Re: issues with disabled masturbation

I am *so* happy for you.
Sounds like they live up to the name 'caregiver'.

 
Old 01-23-2008, 01:32 PM   #6
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Re: issues with disabled masturbation

yes, next stop, finding a lady

 
Old 01-23-2008, 05:24 PM   #7
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Practice well.
I wish you every success, in finding the right lady. You sound like such a nice guy.

 
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