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Old 01-22-2008, 03:08 PM   #1
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Angry Total condom failure!

Hi,
Almost every single time I have used a condom, it has either:
a) Come off during sex and is found on the bed or wherever
b) Come off during sex inside the woman
c) Is completely split open so that the condom just is left circled around the base of the penis.

a) has happened about five times, b) has happened about three times, and c) has happened about three times. There's been a few of other times wearing a condom when none of these happens, but all of those I stopped before ejaculation. In fact, I have NEVER came inside a condom, I haven't really bloody had the chance! All other times I've had sex it has been with my ex-girlfriend on the pill. Before her I was not sexually active, however I am now, and not with the same partner. One day it could really turn out with bad repercussions.

What the hell am I doing wrong? I know how to put them on, and follow the instructions exactly. Get rid of that bubble at the top. Etc. I swear I'm doing it right as do the girls.

I despise condoms, they're supposed to work! I am slightly above average size (7") but nothing that should cause me to get specialist condoms! And the condom seems to fit fine at the start. We only ever notice the condom has gone walkabout/broken some time after it has happened, which is pretty bad as I'm sure you can imagine.

Hope you can help, this has happened so often, esp. recently now that I'm not with my ex, that it has become beyond a joke.

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Old 01-22-2008, 03:18 PM   #2
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Re: Total condom failure!

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What the hell am I doing wrong? I know how to put them on, and follow the instructions exactly. Get rid of that bubble at the top. Etc. I swear I'm doing it right as do the girls.


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what do you mean get rid of the bubble? I hope you're not putting it on all the way without leaving the little bubble part there....you have to leave the little bubble part there or it will break because the sperm has no where to go.

 
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Re: Total condom failure!

Sorry for the confusion, I just meant to pinch the top to expel air while putting it on. Not remove it!

 
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Re: Total condom failure!

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Sorry for the confusion, I just meant to pinch the top to expel air while putting it on. Not remove it!
ok sounds like you're doing it right.....maybe try to leave a little MORE room in the tip? are the condoms too tight?

 
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Re: Total condom failure!

Na I've never had any discomfort or anything. They seem fine to me, and are fine through most of the sex. We just always discover by the end that it's either gone or split at some point!

 
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Re: Total condom failure!

ok because I was going to suggest magnums if it was too tight, they're also a little thicker.....what brand of condoms are you using?

 
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Re: Total condom failure!

If they're splitting off it sounds like they're too big.. but if they're splitting it sounds like they're too small! Maybe they're being pulled off by motion + how tight she is or if she's using her muscles (kegels I think it's called) just a thought.. I have no idea really.. and if that was the case, I wouldn't know how to prevent it other than being careful and paying attention to how you're moving.

Other suggestions would be to try various sizes and brands. Maybe try the condoms out while masturbating.. ?? just an idea, definitely not the same as sex, but it may help.

 
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Re: Total condom failure!

The condoms I use are either Durex or "Safe Hands Condoms". I buy them from condom vending machines in various places. It'd be pretty hard to be selective about what condoms I chose. Thanks for your help though guys.
And I'm not sure if it's the girl's muscles or whatever, because it's been with different girls.

 
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The condoms I use are either Durex or "Safe Hands Condoms". I buy them from condom vending machines in various places. It'd be pretty hard to be selective about what condoms I chose. Thanks for your help though guys.
And I'm not sure if it's the girl's muscles or whatever, because it's been with different girls.

I don't think those are very strong. Try a good brand like Trojan
Why would it be hard to be selective? They sell condoms at walgreens, etc.....not just vending machines. Who knows if the vending machine condoms have passed their expiration date? Buy a box of good quality condoms at walgreens and see if it makes a difference.

 
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Re: Total condom failure!

one more thing.....I just thought of.....
I hope your partner is not using vaseline as a lubricant because that can dissolve certain types of condoms.

 
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Re: Total condom failure!

Na we don't use lubricant, and I make sure she's properly ready, if you get me, before we start And it's never been ridiculously tight.

I guess I'll have to grow up and buy some properly rather than taking the easy way out and getting them from machines. Everyone else seems to though - I wonder why it doesn't work for me? The last time I used a condom it was one the girl had that she got from a pack, not from a machine, and that split too. Although that was also Durex. Durex are one, if not the, most well-known supplier of condoms (at least here they are), so I'm suprised/annoyed they don't work for me.

PS. I haven't heard of Walgreens, I guess it's an American store, but there'll be stores here that do them. I don't really know of good brands other than Durex here though. I guess I jsut gotta fish around.
Are you guys sure it's the condoms and not me? None of my friends have this problem.

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Re: Total condom failure!

You have two totally different problems going on here. The first one, that it falls off, would normally be caused by the condom being loose. Since you aren't small, the only thing I can think of is that either you go a little soft at some point which is enough to get it to slip or that it isn't rolled up enough and the rim is catching and rolling itself back up due the obvious. Do you ever check during intercourse that it's still completely rolled as high as it can go?

The second problem, breakage, is usually caused by lack of lubrication (which you wouldn't necessarily notice) or expired condoms. Maybe you should be using lube, if they're tearing. All it takes is too much friction in a drying vagina and it's over.

 
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Re: Total condom failure!

Thanks Thisby for your reply. You are most likely right with the former, as, possibly because I hate condoms, or other reasons that come to mind, I sometimes struggle to maintain a full erection with the condom on, even if it's just briefly, and this probably makes it likely the condoms will come off. I rarely check if its fully rolled down during intercourse, do you suggest I pull out every so often and roll it back down if it's come up?

The second problem, I'm not so sure of. The girl usually seems wet, and it can be kinda awkward to suggest lube, and it can be seen as a bit weird (even though it shouldn't) to use lube for vaginal sex between two young people. Then there is the matter of which lubes don't damage condoms. I'm trying to remember now if it's just the current girl I've been seeing that the condom has broken with, or another too. It might just be the current one, which may mean I won't have this particular problem with other girls (although will likely still have the slipping off problem instead).

 
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If they're splitting off it sounds like they're too big.. but if they're splitting it sounds like they're too small!

Is that how it is? I always thought if it fell off it meant you were likely too small, and if it split you were likely too big. Kinda makes more sense that way too.

 
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Re: Total condom failure!

yes walgreens is one of the biggest pharmacy chains in america. didn't notice you were in England! I'd try a trojan or a trojan magnum and see what you think.

 
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