Long story made short - wife passed away last January and have started to date a very lovely lady who is close to my age (58). Well, we progressed past the 'friends' stage and had sex (or tried to). While on the couch making out, I am stiff as a broom handle but we proceed to the bedroom and still all is OK. I like foreplay and after about 20-25 minutes of this play, my erection becomes about 50% erect. Finally was able to make an OK attempt but not like it should have been. Performance anxiety, lack of female companionship for almost a year, you tell me. I have some samples of Viagra and Cialis that my PCP gave me "just in case"...should I or am I just going through a 'stage'? Might add that the lady was MOST understanding and didn't put me on any kind of guilt trip!
Thanks for any advice from any guys who have been there and done that (or tried to!!)
Dave
Last edited by Grehound27; 01-31-2008 at 04:34 PM.
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I think thats just a normal thing and you was probably a bit nervou, if it was the first woman you been intimate with other than yor late wife?
going into the bedroom like that after foreplay... I've done the same thing but after we got going it ''straighten up''...try to relax a little more and just take your time but keep her excited/happy to...use your hands other parts to do that and maybe your broom handle penis may come back ...lol
no kidding tho if you keep having these problems take the viagra.
but I think its just a normal reaction.
Long story made short - wife passed away last January and have started to date a very lovely lady who is close to my age (58). Well, we progressed past the 'friends' stage and had sex (or tried to). While on the couch making out, I am stiff as a broom handle but we proceed to the bedroom and still all is OK. I like foreplay and after about 20-25 minutes of this play, my erection becomes about 50% erect. Finally was able to make an OK attempt but not like it should have been. Performance anxiety, lack of female companionship for almost a year, you tell me. I have some samples of Viagra and Cialis that my PCP gave me "just in case"...should I or am I just going through a 'stage'? Might add that the lady was MOST understanding and didn't put me on any kind of guilt trip!
Thanks for any advice from any guys who have been there and done that (or tried to!!)
Dave
I agree with Chevyman.
If you were stiff as a broom handle you don't necessarily have ED, especially if you were totally erect during foreplay. It may be a combination of both anxiety and lack of companionship, or, you know, it has really only been 1 year and some thoughts of your wife may have slipped in. That is certainly not uncommon.
I think you need to be easy on yourself and that may include getting a little help from, I recommend Cialis. Although Viagra would make you as hard as a rock you would have to know exactly when to take it and it may produce unwanted side-effects (especially if you have not tried it yet).
Cialis will give you that little extra boost to keep erect and re-gain that erection for up to 36 hours. It does not have the extreme side effects that come with Viagra (inability to ejaculate is the worst!).
I think you will be just fine with that little boost. Please keep us posted!
Cialis will give you that little extra boost to keep erect and re-gain that erection for up to 36 hours. It does not have the extreme side effects that come with Viagra (inability to ejaculate is the worst!).
AZMan, never heard of that side effect! I have samples of both and think I will try to Cialis first if this problem comes up again! (pun intended!!)
I did the exact same thing 28 years ago. My first wife divorced me and I didn't have any sex for 6 months. On the second date with my new girlfriend, it became obvious that we were going to end up in bed. I was only 34 years old at the time. I was erect on the couch. We went to bed and we got started, but I could not finish. She was also very understanding and didn't say a thing. That was the only time that I had a problem with her or anyone else until a few months ago when I started having problems at age 62.
If I were you, I wouldn't try the ED drugs just yet. Since she is understanding, I would talk to her about the options and say that you would like to try at least 1 or 2 times more without the ED drugs. I'd bet that she will be all for that and you will probably be successful soon without the help of the drugs. Why take a drug if you can function perfectly fine without them. You don't want them to not work when you may actually need them in a few years. Like I said, I have started to have a problem sometimes and my wife is very understanding and has never made me feel the slightest bit bad. Talk to your new lady before you take any of the pills.
Just my opinion.
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Some great advice that I was thinking about myself. I will be your age in several years and might just have no alternative but Vitamin V or C at that time.
I think your "just in case" has arrived. V,C and L are none addictive. If you are in pretty good health and the doctor gave them to you, there is no harm in trying them out.
People talk about the side effects. I've tried all three and I never get any of the side effects others talk about. I only get the effect they intend on giving me.
I think your "just in case" has arrived. V,C and L are none addictive. If you are in pretty good health and the doctor gave them to you, there is no harm in trying them out.
People talk about the side effects. I've tried all three and I never get any of the side effects others talk about. I only get the effect they intend on giving me.
HOOP!
Hoop, I think I have fooled Mother Nature long enough.....at approaching sixty, I don't have a lot of extra time to experiment. Physical health is great and Doctor says, go for it - so I am!!
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