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Old 02-03-2008, 02:32 PM   #1
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Can't get an erection when trying to have sex with my wife

I'm getting really frustrated, and so is my wife. Lately, I can't get an erection when my wife and I are trying to have sex. I was on Viagra, which worked only "ok". So, my doctor had me try Cialis. I tried that last night, and I woke up with an erection, but once my wife woke up and we actually were close to trying to have sex, I lost the erection and couldn't get it back. I had the same problem last week. In fact, I lost it right before we tried intercourse.

My doctor gave me a physical exam last year and checked my prostate, and checked my testosterone level, which he said was fine. He didn't really check my penis, though. I only get partial erections, and then they don't really last.

I haven't been to a urologist yet, but I'm wondering if I should go to a specialist rather than just my family physician. I don't seem to have much libido anymore---it's weird. I'm working a lot of hours right now, so that probably isn't helping much. But, my wife is really getting frustrated, and I don't blame her. I'm not sure if my problem is psychological, physical, middle age (I'm 43), or WHAT it is.

I can't even get an erection by myself when I'm trying to do it myself. It's only a partial one.

Anybody else with symptoms like this? Do those herbal remedies really help like they say they do?? Any suggestions?

 
Old 02-04-2008, 09:53 AM   #2
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Re: Can't get an erection when trying to have sex with my wife

How's your blood pressure and weight? If both are high, they can cause ED problems..try some excercise like walking or light running daily if your fit enough. Also, working long hours you might have alot of stress on your mind and might have low energy, I personally take chinese ginsing and high-potency B Complex stress tabs..for me excercising helps release alot of pent up stress and helps me relax at night. Also, how's your diet, high fat foods are known to cause problems when taking ED medication. Try to incorporate more fresh fruits and veggies and clean water. I would say to try the excercise and diet change for a few weeks and see how it fares for you. Also, Levitra is said to work better for men with high blood and diabetic.

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Old 02-04-2008, 03:38 PM   #3
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Re: Can't get an erection when trying to have sex with my wife

Blood pressure was 134/82 last time at the doctors office, which is pretty good for me. I'm overweight by maybe 20 lbs.

I'm a CPA, so I can't get much exercise this time of year. I walk usually every night when it's not tax season.

Does the chinese ginsing really work?

 
Old 02-05-2008, 12:09 AM   #4
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Re: Can't get an erection when trying to have sex with my wife

Your bottom number on your blood pressure is a little on the high side, I think 140/90 is considered high now, so if you have 134/82, you might be in the early stages of pre-hypertension. Ask your doctor to monitor your pressure for a bit to see what your average might be. Also, see if he can prescribe Levitra and see if that responds better for you.

As far as Ginsing working, everyone's different, what works for someone might not work for others. It works for me so that's why I listed it. Working out is always good to do, did you notice if you had better erection control after you did your walks? If so, you might need to schedule a little time in for it, maybe 30 to 45 mins. Sometimes, I also get very busy for days or weeks at a time, and I just need to stop everything and add 45 mins just for me, to just get up and out and start walking or jogging, then come back and finish what I can. After I sweat out my tension, I feel much more calm and relaxed and can focus better (not only on work mind you). The stress of it all can compound very fast and zap you before you even know what's happening. It sounds like your really wound up right now due to it being tax time and all, so you might need to find a way to release your tension and calm your mind down.

 
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Re: Can't get an erection when trying to have sex with my wife

do you masturbate?

 
Old 02-11-2008, 04:30 AM   #6
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Re: Can't get an erection when trying to have sex with my wife

Sometimes, yes.

 
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