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Old 03-10-2008, 01:25 PM   #1
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Masturbating while asleep

Last night my fiance and I went to bed like any other night. At around 3:30am I woke up because of the bed moving bad and forth. I look over and he is masterbaiting!! I asked him what he was doing, he rolled over, kissed me and went back to sleep. I asked him about it this morning and he said he had no idea what I was talking about. I am guessing that he was asleep, or just embarrassed that I caught him. This has had me thinking all day, because he is a very light sleeper. I do not feel that he was doing it because there is a lack of sex in our lives. He usually does masterbait 3-5 times a week, but never in the bed with me. I am sort of concerned about this! If there is anyone that could help explain this to me, I would love the answers!

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Old 03-10-2008, 02:53 PM   #2
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Re: Please help!

I wouldn't worry. He thought you were asleep, was a little horny, and relieved himself. Or maybe he really was masterbaiting in his sleep. Either way, unless he is masterbaiting to avoid sex with you it is a non-issue. Women have this wierd idea that if their husband or BF masterbates it some how reflects on them. Men generally masterbate from a young age and it has nothing to do with you. Now, if his masterbaiting bothers you, just kindly request he not do it when you are around. A reasonable request.

 
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Old 03-10-2008, 05:09 PM   #3
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Re: Masterbaiting while asleep

I imagine he likes doing it asleep or not, the grip of our hand is no match to a females vagina, its the feel and the pleasure is intense when we ogasm from masterbaiting..its relaxing and maybe he can sleep better after?
nothing aginst you or any female but the feel of our hands the grip is much tighter than a vagina.

if he was not asleep when you felt the bed shaking , and it bothers you? you might tell him to do it in private, anyway
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pleasures you...why worry about it?

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Old 03-11-2008, 03:43 AM   #4
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Re: Masturbating while asleep

In my opinion most men touch themselves in bed but masturbating is a different thing all together. As far as I now us men does not masturbate while we are asleep. You might experience a stiff one but I cant recall that my fiancee ever told me that i was playing with myself while sleeping. Some girls might not like the idea of their man playing with themselves in bed, but other girls actually gets turned on when we do.

 
Old 03-11-2008, 12:15 PM   #5
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Re: Masturbating while asleep

As a female, that would bother me too. Why wouldn't he just have sex w/ you before bed or wake you up? I really do not want to be there asleep if my husband wanted to do that. It may be natural, but he should not be ignoring your wants and needs. Do you have a good relationship, sex and otherwise?

If that does make you uncomfortable, I would tell him to please not to masterbate when you are right there.

 
Old 03-12-2008, 03:57 AM   #6
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Re: Masturbating while asleep

I know that myself I wake up most morning with a full erection. And I wake up with my hand on it. But never to my knowledge have I ever mastrubated while asleep. But I have woken up touching my wife all over. Oh what beautiful nights they turn out to be.
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Re: Masturbating while asleep

maybe he was dreaming?!?!
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Old 03-14-2008, 02:17 PM   #8
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Re: Masturbating while asleep

there is such a thing called sexomnia/sleep sex.. having sex while asleep.. its a real sleeping disorder, and in extreme cases anti-seizure meds might be prescribed.

In less serious situations, like your fiances.. some people masturbate in their sleep. Its usually caused by stressed or anxiety and doesn't actually have anything to do with being horny or unsatisfied with their sex life. He's simply relieving stress!

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Old 03-25-2008, 03:30 AM   #9
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Re: Masturbating while asleep

I had been prescribed Ativan once and I woke up in the morning nude (I usually sleep in PJ's) and didn't remember going to sleep that way. I remember my wife had been feeling frisky that night and I thought I had fallen asleep, depriving her. So I apologized the next morning. She asked me what I was apologizing for. When I told her "because I fell asleep." She said "What are you talking about? We had sex right after you took a bath." I couldn't remember having sex or taking a bath! There's a reason why they call Ativan "milk of amnesia" I guess.

-Aaron.

P.S. For all you ladies out there, men aren't the only ones who masturbate in bed. I've caught my wife doing it many times, and not just at night

 
Old 03-25-2008, 01:04 PM   #10
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Re: Masturbating while asleep

it is normal for a man to have nighttime erections and tug on it a bit before rolling over and going back to sleep.

 
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