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Old 07-15-2008, 09:30 AM   #1
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Attraction to girls 15-20

I am a 22 year old male. I have an attraction to girls 15 to 25. I still am attracted to older women but not as much as the teen girls. Let me clarify though that I am in no way attracted to girls younger than that. I have NO attraction to pre teen or children. I find it quite disgusting actually.


I have an other problem that ties into it. (Some people will find this part to be gross) Also I have a pretty strong foot fetish. This tends to make me more attracted to younger girls. Older womens feet are wrinkly and veiny. Over all young girls bodies are just so much more attractive than older women. I know its wrong to think of underage girls in that way but the girls these days do not look young. They dress more provocative and develop younger. I am worried that as i get older i will still be attracted to the younger girls. When im like 30 i dont want to be a pedophile. Plus i dont think i will be able to have a health relationship with someone my age when I am older. Is my only option to see a therapist? Can i be hypnotized or something? I really don't know what I am trying to get out of this post. I already know every one is going to say therapy is really only the way to help me. But i don't really see how therapy could help me. I dont think talking to a shrink will do anything. Plus i dont really have the time or money to do it.

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Old 07-15-2008, 10:06 AM   #2
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Re: Attraction to girls 15-20

As a 22 yr old male being attracted to 18 to 25 year old girls is quite normal. And yes, 15 to 17 year olds can be quite mature looking and sexy, but of course you know better than to go there! What I do not understand is why you are worred about being attracted to 30 plus women? A young man your age would naturally be attracted to a young woman. Thinking that a 30 something is too old and saggy to be attractive to a 22 year old is kinda normal. But if this really bothers you then by all means see a therapist to alleviate your concerns.

As far as the foot fetish - I personally do not understand them and do not have one myself but they seem to be rather common. Once again, find a therapist and discuss with one you are comfortable with.

Good luck.

 
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Re: Attraction to girls 15-20

I have to say that I admire you for admitting what you did. With that being said, I would try to see a counselor. Interest in girls 15-16 years old is not normal and is cause for concern....Honestly.

Please see someone, and good luck.

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Re: Attraction to girls 15-20

I disagree. What you do in your head, is very different from what you actually act upon. In my head, I find men attractive as well as women. I don't act upon it, and it causes me no problem. Would some find it disgusting? I am certain some would. With others, it would be no problem, and seem perfectly normal.
If I were the original poster, I would find a woman 18 to 20 or so, who liked having her feet paid attention to, or who likes a foot fetish. You might need to look in personals, or post in an online dating service. They are out there, but not so easy to find. To act upon being attracted to a girl younger than that would be inviting all kinds of trouble. While masturbating solo, pretty much anything is fair game.

 
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Re: Attraction to girls 15-20

I agree with the previous poster, 18 and above i don't see as a problem as you are only 22 yourself. Getting involved with a female below 18 can lead to all kinds of troubles.

Age at the end of the day is just a number. There are young guys out there who are only attracted to much older women, women who are only attracted to very young males and women who are only attracted to older men (regardless of their bank balance )

I can understand you liking younger women if you have a foot fetish as our feet just like our hands, whether we take care of them or not, do tell our age, even if our face doesn't.

I really don't see you as requiring a therapist, but that's just my opinion. I think you were simply using 15 - 20 as a rough figure. I'm sure you know better than to get involved with someone beneath the legal age. I too think that a lot of young girls grow up fast and look far older than their actual years and if one was to lie about her age how would you know and that is the problem.

With the foot fetish there is no issue. Foot fetishes are very common, but it's not something people easily admit to. I think you would find it easier to find somebody with a foot fetish on the internet. I once had a chat ID which had nothing to do with foot fetishes, but as i LOVE shoes it related to shoes. My husband was intrigued by the amount of males with a foot fetish who came out of the woodwork. Neither of us realised that footfetishes were that popular and the site i used to chat with friends wasn't even a sexual or fetish site, just a normal chat room.

So if you look in the right places and stick to girls 18+ i don't see you as having a problem or needing therapy.

 
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Re: Attraction to girls 15-20

I agree with Audrey but for one point. If the attraction to young girls bothers you, and it isn't something you want to talk about with family or friends, a visit or two with a therapist might just allay your fears that you are quite normal.

Good luck.

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Old 07-24-2008, 12:33 PM   #7
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As a 22 yr old male being attracted to 18 to 25 year old girls is quite normal. And yes, 15 to 17 year olds can be quite mature looking and sexy, but of course you know better than to go there! What I do not understand is why you are worred about being attracted to 30 plus women? A young man your age would naturally be attracted to a young woman. Thinking that a 30 something is too old and saggy to be attractive to a 22 year old is kinda normal. But if this really bothers you then by all means see a therapist to alleviate your concerns.

As far as the foot fetish - I personally do not understand them and do not have one myself but they seem to be rather common. Once again, find a therapist and discuss with one you are comfortable with.

Good luck.
In all honesty, your body is making you like those younger girls because it's natural. Humans are designed to reproduce between the ages of 15 and 24. That may be why you like girls of that age. It's just not acceptable in modern day western society, for some reason.

 
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Re: Attraction to girls 15-20

If young and beautiful feet is your turn-on, then their are many women, your age, as well as older women with young and beautiful feet! You just have to be just a bit more choosy.lol.. What ever your poison is, as the say goes, then keep looking until you find it. If you're a man that are turned on by small breasted women, you're going to keep looking until you find one, with out robbing the cradle.

 
Old 07-30-2008, 07:22 PM   #9
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Re: Attraction to girls 15-20

Interesting. I remember when I was younger I would get really embaressed and upset if I caught a glimpse of the soles of someone's feet, particularly a family member's.

Now I have a foot fetish. I like girls feet (if they're attached to a beautiful girl). But I still get the same reaction to anyone else's. I'm wondering if my body finds feet attractive when looked at out of context but when I notice who they belong to it creates a clash and that causes the horrible reaction.

 
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Re: Attraction to girls 15-20

I think maturity has a lot to do with the age thing. If you're living anywhere on planet earth today then most people are uneducated and can remain quite immature in their behaviour even into their twenties or thirties (or forever). Those with better upbringing and stronger personalities it could perhaps be justified with having a relationship with them at a younger age if they can handle it.

I think you're a paedophile when you are interested specifically in the prepubescent, or when you're attracted to mental sexual immaturity (i.e. before one has had the time to mentally adjust to the physical changes in their body). Given that mental sexual immaturity is very likely in anyone under the age of 16, it is proper to not feel attraction to them (assuming that you can tell their age; they usually look a little under-developed before 15-16--and they probably over-dress [read: under-dress] because they're insecure. It's a safe bet that if she looks _too_ sexy for the time of day, then she's probably a kid).

Incidentally, in my country (UK) the age of consent is 16. I think an age of consent of 18-21 is rather inane and backward and can only be for religious reasons.

 
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Re: Attraction to girls 15-20

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Now I have a foot fetish. I like girls feet (if they're attached to a beautiful girl). But I still get the same reaction to anyone else's. I'm wondering if my body finds feet attractive when looked at out of context but when I notice who they belong to it creates a clash and that causes the horrible reaction.
Floor - is that sort of like "nice body, shame about the face" Sorry, couldn't resist.

 
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