Low libido and no explanation - please help - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

Bin_man · 09-02-2008, 06:28 PM

I'm 21, and have had this problem for a while now. Ever since I was young I think I've had lower sex drive than most people I know, but as I've gotten older it's got even more puzzling to me.

I just don't have that big a desire for sex. If I was told I could never have it again in my life tomorrow, I wouldn't be all that bothered. And I don't know why. I want to have the desire, but I just don't have it.

I've had my T levels checked, and they were near the top of the range. I otherwise went through normal puberty, and have a low voice, am hairy, etc. I'm not autistic or anything, and don't have any psychological hang-ups I'm aware of. I'm not gay, and it's not as if I'm having a high sex drive for men while none for women - I just have none. And I'm not on medication of any kind.

So it's just puzzling to me, and I can't find any explanation. If I could press a button to up my sex drive right now, I'd absolutely do it. Right now I just can't see any way out of this.

tfkeel · 09-04-2008, 11:07 PM

It can be quite a blessing, actually. You might get yourself in a lot less trouble through life. The pressures of marriage and a family are pretty severe sometimes, and if you don't have sexual necessity, you might avoid these entirely.

Being single can allow you to do things with your life that most married men WISH THEY COULD.

Glenzo · 09-09-2008, 07:08 AM

This may be a psychological problem as opposed to a physical one.

If I were you I'd go to the Doctor and ask for a referall to a specific counsellor for these things. That specialist will probably analyse your childhood and background etc to ascertain a possible cause. You may just have a mental blockage which is inhibiting your sexuality and attitudes.

Hope this helps