Re: Can a vasectomy reduce a man's libido?
Some men do report issues such as these. In theory, of course, the previous poster is correct, but some men do report a reduction of sensitivity or of the intensity of their orgasms. For some, there might be mental issues of them being less a man since they have been "fixed", but problems are reported by men who were glad to have the operation, thinking it would free them from condoms or having to pull out at the last second. I don't know what it is, but it is real. I have heard cases where following a vasectomy ejaculations were sometimes accompanied with hardly any feelings of orgasm.
I don't think your belief that his problems are because he doesn't find you sexually attractive anymore is helping him, either. Encourage him to consult with a urologist just to rule out other physical causee, but please don't place blame on him. He is probably frustrated by it and it is difficult to get interested in sex if you don't feel anything and your spouse hassels you about it when you can't perform like you used to. That said, I understand your own frustration and I hope you can work out something where you can get the sex you need and he is able to provide it, even if he can't fully enjoy it like he used to.