Feel like garbage after ejaculation - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

bigd1234 · 03-14-2009, 10:04 AM

After i ejaculate i tend to feel like complete garbage.. For instance i'll go in the bathroom, watch a lil movie on the ipod and do what i do..n be REALLY into it..gritted my teeth...then after im done..i literally feel so crapy..sometimes even embaressed i was thinkin or sayin the things i was when i saw the video n the girl..n like its almost depressing..im not sure if this is a sign of something like depression or something but its always like that when im done..i think when im actually with a girl its better tho because i can lay with her after..i used to get more emmotional about it n feel sorry for the girls and just wanna be all affectionate..now adays its more just feelin depressed..such a spike in emmtions is what throws me off..

any help? or just dont even worry about it?

zhope · 03-14-2009, 11:23 AM

Do you have guilty feelings about sex--like it's immoral or sort of wrong? Did your parents ever talk to you about sex? Maybe somehow you got the feeling that it's a "sinful" or just a bad thing. It shounds more like some emotional baggage about sex than actual depression. You might talk to a therapist because you should have no need to feel bad about a normal sexual act, and it can only cause you problems. The sooner you talk to someone, the sooner you'll be able to enjoy what should only be enjoyable!

tooquick · 03-28-2009, 09:29 AM

i get the same thing

when i ejaculate i feel like ****. i feel empty, depressed and i feel like i have failed. the horniness you feel distracts you from a lot of stuff, and when it is gone after you empty your balls, you are left with only yourself and your messy hand. but i am trying to go without masturbation. i want to be free and to get a girl and **** her. and when i fail to go without i feel depressed as hell.

but i cannot concentrate on my work when i feel horny, i cannot get sex and women and the lack of it out of my head, and even though it's not the same i just start masturbating in the state of misery that i am. when i stop i can start doing stuff like work on my college work, but i still struggle through it; instead of horniness and the constant uncontrollable obsession with my unfulfilled needs distracting me it is complete and utter misery. it's hard studying for an exam which is for your future when you've had a failure of a past and you are failing in the present.

Tenacious · 04-02-2009, 09:43 AM

Sounds to me like you guys really need to find a woman to love and be with, and feel close too. Sex is meant to be shared with someone you love ultimately and those feelings will go completey away when you find your special someone, but until then, you got to do what you got to do -to help you get through this life. The fact that you are both very emotional is what some women would LOVE about you! Hope you both find your special someone soon.

orion · 04-03-2009, 01:15 AM

The feelings you describe are totally normal. It's part of your body's way of dealing with the enormous release of emotions that sexual activity brings. After sex your body wants to become more controlled and defensive. Those feelings pass after a while and do seem to be less necessary when you have a regular partner who you trust.

Over time those feelings will decrease in intensity. Meantime don't worry about them, all guys have those feelings to a more or less extent. It's part of being sexual. Perhaps you just are on the more side right now.

When I was younger I remember saying to myself, I won't do that again....of course it wasn't long before I was back doing the exact same things I swore I wouldn't....its a common thing.