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Old 04-25-2009, 10:51 AM   #1
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Ashamed to have sex because of small penis

I've want to see if anyone dealt with my problem. I'm terrified that I'm going to be laughed at and be nothing but a laughing stock. The other day I heard some woman interviewed on a radio show saying that she found out some guy she was dealing with had a small penis she would just laugh and tell him to leave. I would rather be the biggest jerk in the world with a big penis then sone nice guy with a small one. And PLEASE don't tell there's nothing that I can do about it. What good is that going to do me? So I might as well jump in the river then I suppose. Guys with big penises have it made. They have their choice of any woman and have others just begging to be with them

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Sorry to tell you serge, but a whole lot of men think just like you do. Wondering if they will be rejected by a woman for a number of reasons. It is true, there are some women that think like you mentioned. I think you should work on something more important like your self-esteem and get to know how most women really think.

 
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Re: Ashamed to have sex because of small penis

This may sound like a cliche, but it's very true I think for most women: It's not what you have, it's what you do with it that counts.

 
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Re: Ashamed to have sex because of small penis

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Guys with big penises have it made. They have their choice of any woman and have others just begging to be with them
Yes, in porn land.

You know, before actually sleeping with any of the men I have ever slept with, I have never known the size of their penis in advance.

Like most women, I had to decide if we were going to go that far based solely on whether I actually liked him as a person, not on the size of his penis. Imagine that.

Do you think women actually ask for measurements before hand? Nope. Women make that decision blind. Exactly when and how is this rejection you're imagining going to take place? At what point do you expect her to find out your size? Over dessert, first date? Or after you've actually gotten to know how and can reasonably decide if she's a shallow user out for some nsa sex (where size might matter to the shallowest of the shallow), or a decent person with insecurities of her own (where it doesn't)?

You know what has gotten me into bed with my partners? Their personality, and them having enough confidence to try. Penis size was always a surprise. Your problem is that I think you have based too much of your confidence on your size. Stop it already

I know you were looking for answers from guys who feel the same, but I just wanted to point out the flaw in your thinking (that women actually have a clue how big you are before you get there and that therefore large men can have any woman they want.)

As for the woman in the radio show, she was trying to get a reaction. It was for the shock value and to be mean (which seems to be in these days). Women say this because it gives them power. I doubt any one of them would really do it, despite the big talk. And I would think a women so bitter that she might actually do this could probably spotted a mile away, so you could easily steer clear of her. And I don't think you plan on having sex with any emotional train wrecks, do you?

And just so you know: small penises are easier for oral and anal sex

Good luck.

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I've want to see if anyone dealt with my problem. I'm terrified that I'm going to be laughed at and be nothing but a laughing stock. The other day I heard some woman interviewed on a radio show saying that she found out some guy she was dealing with had a small penis she would just laugh and tell him to leave. I would rather be the biggest jerk in the world with a big penis then sone nice guy with a small one. And PLEASE don't tell there's nothing that I can do about it. What good is that going to do me? So I might as well jump in the river then I suppose. Guys with big penises have it made. They have their choice of any woman and have others just begging to be with them
Thanks, for posting I thought I was the only man on the planet with the smallest penis. Well maybe not that small. But, I knew there was nothing
I could do about my size. So, I mastered what i have.
Been with 60 or so women before i got married. My wife now who was married before, Said her x was big (what ever that means) and he never gave her an orgasm. Plus she said he was a minute man (what ever that means)
I give my wife 3-5 orgasm every time we make love.
So don't worry about your size to much and learn how to plz her with it.
if you get one that calls you small. Tell her a loaf of Bolony(spell check) would be small to her.

 
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Re: Ashamed to have sex because of small penis

I understand your concern, but I also have to agree with the other posters.

The size of a penis is connected to an abstract (subjective) and perhaps unfounded notion about masculine power rather than to a man's actual performance in bed. It is not the size of a penis which defines what it can do to please a woman. A woman is much more than her sexual organ, if you see what I mean.

Actually, how small is your penis? If it measures 8cm or more when it is erect, that's enough. Not every woman likes big penises, to be sure.

Try to develop other aspects of your body (large shoulders, muscled arms and legs, flat belly, masculine look, etc) and above all your sense of humour and you'll feel more self-confident.

A woman who makes undignified comments about a man's penis probably has had a broken heart and is hurting him in return (revenge).

Anyway, there are a couple of sites out there which offer an increase in penis size with the help of certain exercises. I don't know if they are credible or safe. Be very cautious and ask a lot of questions (maybe a doctor) before trying anything.

 
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You know what has gotten me into bed with my partners? Their personality, and them having enough confidence to try. Penis size was always a surprise. Your problem is that I think you have based too much of your confidence on your size. Stop it already
Absolutely! A guy who is self-confident (but not cocky) in himself as a whole person is very attractive. A woman isn't even going to be interested in seeing a guy's package, let alone sleeping with him, if he lacks confidence in himself or appears to not think much of himself, or worse yet comes off as a jerk.

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I would rather be the biggest jerk in the world with a big penis then sone nice guy with a small one.
If that were the case, you would probably be very lonely because guys that are jerks tend to only care about themselves and are usually not good in bed.

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Old 04-28-2009, 04:12 PM   #9
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Dude, just because you have a small penis don't let that stop you. If some woman can't accept your penis then she doesn't really deserve to be with you. Get out there and use the thing you have!! Use it well.if you don't want to at first then just get the woman really sorted then she's not really gonna care.I'd just go for it and enjoy it!

Basically what I'm saying is don't worry. I hope I've atleast maybe given you confidence. Good luk with it mate!!!

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I have a story to tell you. When I was in the military I got involved with a married woman who asked me out. She was separated from her husband. I would not go because of moral reasons. Then she asked me out over to supper with a phone call. Now to the short of it. Within two dates we began having sex.
Then it continued for several weeks. She began having multiple orgasms. Then one night in bed, she said to me. My husband is twice as large as you are and I rarely ever have an orgasm with him. So right then and there, I knew it was more technique than size that mattered. One thing I want to mention [deleted]. If a woman cannot have an orgasm with intercourse, they most definitely will with oral sex. Just don't be aggressive. I leaned what I am telling from a movie. I will never forget the females response after orgasm. "Dear God, where did you learn to do that? ha! But of course it was a movie. I tried it and it works The words out of my wife's mouth were "Oh, my God!.- Sam061

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She began having multiple orgasms. Then one night in bed, she said to me. My husband is twice as large as you are and I rarely ever have an orgasm with him. So right then and there, I knew it was more technique than size that mattered.
Exactly my point!

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Tha's SOOO true!!!!! do it slowly... the faster! good point if the woman loves you there is nothing to worry about ....

 
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make up for it with technique like sam said and with your oral skills.

 
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Re: Ashamed to have sex because of small penis

While I might not have said it in so many words, I agree that technique is key. Every woman has their own preferences as to what feels good to them sexually. It's just a matter of communicating with her to find out what she likes or dislikes. I think that a man who is attentive to a woman's needs is (in most cases) more of a turn-on to a woman than his penis size ever would be. It is for me anyway. Honestly, if a guy isn't going to put some effort into it, then he should put it away and go home.

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