Do any of you guys have a problem reaching a climax ??
I can get a rock hard erection, but have trouble when I need to climax (even during masturbation)
My wife and I have a lot of fun during sex, and so it's not a bordom thing - I think I must just have an un-sensitive penis !
I was circumcised young, and spent my teen years like all boys do - (hands down pants) - but I can't reach a climax as quickly as I used to do.
Certainly wish that sometimes I could slow that process down and have more fun like you do! Seriously, being circumcized does apparently take away some of the sensitivity although I'm uncut so I can't say that from personal experience. As we get older things do slow down a bit...but you don't say how old you are. Yep, like all the rest of us as teens it was quick and often! I don't know quite what to tell you, maybe someone else has some better tips....I mainly just wanted to validate your question and offer what I could!
(I am 30 years old.)
People always tell me I am lucky, but not being able to reach a climax quickly enough can have negative energy on a relationship too (my wife thinks she doesn't exite me etc)
I have to think about all sorts of things to finally reach a climax, and I usually end up having to masturbate after making love so I can ***
I do feel sorry for men who prematurely ejaculate, but for me the thought of being able to *** first is a fantasy !!
You are so right...Oh how ironic life is...some of us are done too quick and others are too slow or not at all! I suppose that can be a real bummer sometime and would certainly understand that negative energy sorta thing. Just curious...how long have you been married and is this "slow down" always been around or is it new to your sex life?
we have been together for over 5 years, but I had the same problem with x-gf's too.
The first few times are OK (i.e. someone different in bed with you), but the novelty wears off after a few days !!
I know I can *** quickly if something REALLY gets me going (like when my wife said she sometimes likes to masturbate while thinking of other women she works with), but again after a couple of days this fantasy wears off too.
I know the brain is the largest sex organ, and mine works overtime... so what do I do ?? (and be4 someone suggests it ..... I am NOT gay and just haven't realizes yet)
Sounds like you might have to be really creative all the time, trying new things, new positions and use alot of fantasy yourself to create new excitement!
Thats what we started about 3 years ago.
Believe me, we have tried all the fantasy's we can (without risking breaking up (eg. 3-somes))
We tried porn mags, videos, toys, dressing up, role play etc etc etc etc ..... you name it, we've tried it !!
I'm beginning to think it's becoming a mental thing now. Are there no creams to increase sensitivity ??
Don't know about such creams but I do know that our two heads are VERY connected and you might just be on to something when trying to figure this thing out.
I have to agree with Lance here, I'd stop worrying about it also. Just enjoy it while you can. Once you've trained your mind not enjoy intercourse to the point of orgasm, It may take alot to get it back. And if you think or worry about it, it's just going to take longer to get the feeling back.
I read once on the Net that some prostitutes will tell their customers not to have an orgasm, it feels so good, don't stop. Works just the opposite. It's a tool some of them use to get them in and out the door quickly.
The point is your brain is very much a sex organ also. It knows what feels good and what feels great. You can try all kinds of different things in bed, different postitions, and so on. But until you re-train your mind and stop worrying about not having an orgasm, it's most likely going to stay like this.
About the creams, I've heard of the de-sensitivity creams, but those de-senitize your partner also. You would guess the same thing would happen if there is a sensitivy increasing cream. Would you want that to happen?
You might just try to enjoy what you have now. Some day you may wish you these days back.
You both have very valid points there, and just these few messages is making me realise that this must be the problem (i.e. i'm worrying about it)
My wife usually only orgasms through oral sex or masturbation, but on the odd occation when she is about to climax through penatrive sex and begs me not to stop..... guess what ??.... yep..... I can't hold it back !!
Hmmmm .... so the trick the prostitutes use also works on me when my wife is [allegedly] reaching a climax ...
I will try NOT to *** next time we have sex, and see if that works !! (i.e. pretend i'm on a one night stand, and try my hardest to be a good lover)
Hehehe --- If this works I would be so happy !!
Will keep you up-dated !
Originally posted by pjr: Hmmmm .... so the trick the prostitutes use also works on me when my wife is [allegedly] reaching a climax ...
I will try NOT to *** next time we have sex, and see if that works !! (i.e. pretend i'm on a one night stand, and try my hardest to be a good lover)
Hehehe --- If this works I would be so happy !!
Will keep you up-dated !
LOL Good luck pjr really interested in knowing how the one night stand thing works for you. If all else fails I bet your wife would be more than willing to tell you not to stop more often too.
Another thing, it can work the same way with her too. If you ask her to hold back and not have an orgasm. Wonder if she'll be able to control it?
I am very similar, it usually takes me quite awhile to ***; at first, most girls think it's great, but soon the novelty wears off, and it can take a lot of work for both of us. It eliminates quickies, or doing any stuff in near public areas (every girl I've been with wants to do it outdoors!). I don't go for hours and hours, but going for 45 minutes to an hour is not out of the ordinary.
I find that most women only come through oral or having their clits played with, so we do all the stuff. Start off by orally playing with each other, then actual intercourse, then maybe I'll do her till she comes, or vice versa. We get to the point where even if I come first, I savor that for a little bit, but don't feel complete unless I then get her off.
It is something that can be a pain; the sensation is great the whole time, but a guy wants to actually *** sometimes!
I usually *** in less than 5 minutes, and wish I could last longer than THAT. Maybe 45 minutes is a bit long, but something in between would be nice. I guess I just have a really sensitive penis??
Focus, sounds like we have quite a bit in common, I'm usually done in less than 5 also! That's why I enjoy so much foreplay...as does the wife! But like I said, I'd sure like to split the difference!
And no, This is NOT a brag !! 
