Don't we all! LOL If I had the answer I'd be glad to help, this just takes some practice and skill building. There are no easy answers and each of us has to work this out. You could do some research on premature ejaculation as there are some things you can do (that don't include thinking about other things like sports or race cars...those seem to always make the list!) Good luck and just remember that practice makes perfect!
First, lets talk about your age. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? The reference to practice makes perfect is related to the more experience we have, usually the better we can be at making things last longer. And I've tried the slow down, stop thrusting and such to make myself last longer...wife doesn't like that at all...it is much easier for us to "get off" than them and it takes alot of direct stimulation for them. Sounds like you've worked at the multiple times (more than one intercourse) during the same time period. This is something that is usually suggested...the second time does take longer. You may try to masturbate first (add that to foreplay, its actually pretty good once you teach your partner what works for you) this way, your intercourse may last longer and you both "get off"...always make sure that no matter what she is satisfied. That way both of you are pleasured and neither of you terribly frustrated. There is an exercise that involves the kegel muscle, this is one that you'll have to research. I've never done it but it involves using the same muscle group you use to keep from peeing on yourself when you have to go really bad. Supposedly you can use the same muscles to stop an ejaculation. Like I said....never done that one before. If you aren't using a condom, adding one may help to delay things a bit as well. You may also add the over the counter lotion that helps desensitize things, hope some of this helps. Others may have some tricks as well!
I am 21 years old.
Condom doesnt help much either.
I "get her off" through oral and through touch but she cant reach an orgasm through sex which frudtrates me.
I cant last more than 5 minutes.
We do it on average twice a week.
Thinking about other things doesnt help much, concentrating on the act itself doesnt help either
and yeah....she gets ****** off when i slow down or stop.
I am just wondering what I can do, except for kegel exercises to last longer, because I heard people can last for 2-3 hours
At 21, if you have ejaculations on just two days of the week, no wonder you have a problem!
Seriously, I am only halfway joking. If you don't already, try masturbating the other days, which should help you last longer.
You can go to the drugstore and buy a delay cream, such as Mandelay. It numbs the penis so you can last longer. Some men have great resuls with it.
Woman can get pretty frustrated with PE, but it is a common problem, and one which most women simply can't comprehend. I mean, how many women have ever tried to hold back _their_ orgasm? I think there was a study that showed that most men who continually thrust could only last 3 minutes on average.
There are some medications that can be prescribed that sometimes help including, amazingly, Viagra. Depressants can help, too, including alcohol, so a glass or two of wine may help.
Some men find, too, that different positions are more stimulating that others. Find the position that is least sensitive for you and use that. Also, change positions continually. Some women are driven crazy by alternating between vaginal and oral sex. For example, from the missionary, do intercourse until you are are about to reach the point of no return, then pull out and give her oral sex for a minute, then resume intercourse. Repeat the cycle for a while until she finally climaxes, then you can finish off. Some men, in fact, find that after a while of doing this, they get their second wind and can then last a long time.
See if you can last longer with "woman on top" - since gravity is working for you, not against you - and your g/f can moderate the pace - tell her to go slower - and she should be able to feel even more subtle movements that you make - she can go slow and build up to a climax - she may also be able to stimulate herself
Another thing to try is to press hard on the perenium, which is between to base of the balls and the anus -
You can go a google search on it - find some literature that is free, and feel the spot for ourself first - practice when you masterbate so you have a feel for it
I've read that it works altohugh I have not tried it
I have a similar problem, especially when I bring my g/f off with oral - as I just get so turned on -