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Old 06-19-2003, 12:19 PM   #1
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ok, now i know it sounds crazy to complain about this but i have been with my wife for 11 years and she is absolutely sex crazed. she wants to have sex every night and when i don't put out she sulks and cries. she has never turned me down when i wanted sex so that part is good but she doesn't understand me when i just don't feel like it. i'm happy with sex about twice a week but she seems to think that means i don't love her as much. i love her to death and i love having sex with her--just not ALL the time! i give her oral and 'treats' whenever i feel up to it but she thinks maybe i need to see the doctor about this? she thinks i need to take something to increase my sex drive. i'm happy with her body too...i just can't explain why i don't want to do it all the time. Our roles seem reversed. any ideas?

 
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Man, wish I had that problem! LOL I don't have any answers here, just to validate your question. Each of us has very different sex drives. Personally, like you...twice a week is sufficient for me (and those are few and far between!) I hope your wife can understand that sex doesn't mean love and that you don't love her any less because your sex drive is different. Communication is the key to relationships and especially sex stuff. I'd suggest continuing the conversation when she isn't already upset over it. Maybe the two of you could "compromise" in some way?

 
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ya, she can get pretty frustrated so theres no sense talking to her when she's like that. but lately she had been masturbating when i don't feel like having sex. she just loves it when i get turned on enough to join in!

she says she knows its not about love but i'm still worried that she thinks i don't love her enough. for the first 3 or 4 years of our relationship we had sex at least once a day. i guess i just got enough to do me for a while LOL

does viagra give you more sex drive? i have no problem with erections. actually, somethings she can get me hard even when i don't want sex and she'll just crawl up on top and ride me until she's orgasmed.

 
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First, Viagra does not increase your sex drive. You don't seem to have an ED problem at all!

Second, frequency of sex does not equate to the amount of love. Some women do seem to think this, though, and will insist on having frequent sex as proof of love. In your case, the fact she can still orgasm when you aparently just lie there, shows to me she simply likes sex and does it for reason.

She really needs to be more respectful of you. I mean, if a man were to climb aboard his wife who really didn't want sex whenever he wanted to, we would be harping about how insensitive the man was and how this might even be marital rape. The fact that the man gets an erection from his wife's play does not necessarily mean he wants sex, and this is something women find difficult to understand.

You may either have to get forceful with her when she wants it and you don't, and simply tell her no. This could be a difficult thing to do, but it is what women often have to do when their husbands are oversexed. Tell her she is free to masturbate on her own, but to please let you rest. If this doesn't work, or if you are too concerned about hurting her, and if a talk won't work, then you both may need sex therapy to work out your differences.

 
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Do you have low sex drive
or are you to tried for sex( working 10-12 hrs , 5,6,7 days a week)
See a doctor and get checked out, a good doctor will run all the right test before writing RX for viagra.

 
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