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Old 08-13-2009, 07:59 AM   #1
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Unhappy Masturbation

Alright, I've had this problem all my life but I didn't realize it was a problem until high school. I don't masturbate the same way as other guys. I didn't know until all the jokes about masturbation made me realize that I don't do it the same way as anyone else. It kind of worries me.

The way I masturbate is I would lie down on my stomach, my penis pointing down, and massage the base/start of my penis with the edge of my palm. I usually do it when I don't have a full erection, but almost there. Also I sometimes use other objects to massage that same area, such as thrusting that area against the armrest of a chair or something else hard. I know it's weird but this is the only way that feels good for me and the only way that I've ever been able to ejaculate. I don't ejaculate very often and when I do its when I use an object. This way feels good for me and as I said its the only way I reach orgasm, but I don't think it is very healthy for me.

Afterwards I usually feel uncomfortable and there is a vein in my penis that leads up and away from my groin that seems like it might explode afterwards, I usually have to massage it to make it feel better. It is only the vein on my left side. That vein is always large now, I can see it visibly when my penis is limp. My erection doesn't go away right away either, with the first half of my penis staying erect longer. On top of that, my penis sometimes has light brusing on it on the top, near where I massage. I think it is because of the way I masturbate that my penis is curved down. The curve has just gradually increased over the course of my life and now I am getting really worried. I don't know if this is significant but also my left testicle is bigger and more firm than the right one and hangs lower too, especially after I masturbate. Sometimes it is in pain the same time as that vein is bulging.

I've tried masturbating normally many times but it never works for me. I never experience any pleasure by stimulating the shaft of the penis. I've tried just going on with it anyways but then it turned red and started to hurt the more I stroked it so I stopped. When I rub the head I experience a kind of pleasure but it also is kind of painful, but the pleasure is greater than the pain. Yesterday in the shower I tried and when I was stimulating the head I thought I was about to ejaculate but I urinated instead. It felt good but I know thats not normal either. That was the closest I've got to ejaculation by normal masturbation, but it was also what led me to finally seek some answers.

I'm afraid its affected me mentally too. Because I have never experienced pleasure from shaft stimulation, I have never been turned on by watching it. All kinds of videos are meaningless to me and don't turn me on, whether its vaginal sex, oral sex, anal sex, and whatever else there is, anything involving that stroking motion is meaningless to me. Now I have fetishes. The only things that turn me on are ideas of stimulation that do not involve the penis. So thoughts of making out with a girl, or kissing/licking girls' feet, or the worst one - getting kicked in the balls (ball busting). These are the only situations I can imagine myself in and so they are the only ones that turn me on, and it hurts my confidence a lot having such weird fetishes.

I'm 17 and these issues has really affected my confidence for a long time. I'm going to university next year, and I can't have this problem hurting my self esteem anymore. I'm actually not sure what came first, the fetishes or the odd masturbation technique. I'm too embarassed to see a urologist so I figure this is the best way to get some answers. I know I've mentioned a lot of issues in one thread, but I just thought I might as well list them all in case they are related. Any information -answers, questions, suggestions- is greatly appreciated. I will be checking back on this thread regularly so if you need any additional information I'll post it as soon as I can.

 
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Old 08-13-2009, 12:11 PM   #2
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Re: Masturbation

After reading everything I suggest you stop what you are doing and remain celebate until you finish College.Your maturing age will help you mentally
and physically.Hopefully you will get married and that will stimulate you for
the rest of your life.

 
Old 08-13-2009, 12:36 PM   #3
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That's not a very helpful suggestion. I don't want to be celebate at all, and don't even celebate people masturbate? I agree that maybe I will be physically healthier when I am done university but as far as mentally, I am already pretty mature. I don't think suppressing or ignoring this problem will help my mental health though, in fact I will probably just snap and go crazy one day if I tried to bottle this up. I'm already near breaking point. And as for the getting married thing, I would love to but how would that stimulate me for the rest of my life if I can't get stimulated at all? Right now I don't even have the confidence to approach girls because I am so insecure about what would happen when we went any further than making out. And if I was celebate like you suggest I wouldn't gain much confidence or experience with relationships at all. Thanks for at least trying to help though, any other suggestions are welcome.

 
Old 08-13-2009, 01:03 PM   #4
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...anything involving that stroking motion is meaningless to me...
Have you tried watching lesbian porn? I mean girls with no toys looking as penis, so i believe there is no stroking motions there.

And anyway, why do you think stroking penis should the the thing that turns on? That might be totaly different from person to person. For me it's not. When i watch, its the face, the breasts, the butt the legs, its like most of body parts of a women that can turn me on.

 
Old 08-13-2009, 04:32 PM   #5
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You're right. I would be turned on by videos like that as the female body does turn me on like you say, but if I did masturbate to videos like that it would be the way that I always do, and I don't think it is healthy for me.

Even if other things turn you on, its still the stroking motion that is bringing you pleasure. That's what I want. I just want to be normal because anything that would involve me and a girl involves a stroking motion. In any realistic sexual encounter the guy is getting pleasure from the stroking motion, hand job, oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex. I can't imagine myself getting pleasure from any of those situations and thats what worries me.

 
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do you have a older brother, cousin or even a really GOOD friend you caan confide in to help you change your method?
what about the doctor? or you can wait till you get in to college and go see the doctor there?!?!?!
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Old 08-14-2009, 06:13 AM   #7
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do you have a older brother, cousin or even a really GOOD friend you caan confide in to help you change your method?
what about the doctor? or you can wait till you get in to college and go see the doctor there?!?!?!
keil
I do have an older brother and some good friends i might be able to confide in, but i don't want them to think i'm weird so i don't want to get them involved. I could go to the doctor but its gonna be really embarassing so i only want to do that as a last resort kinda thing. If a professional opinion is my only option then I guess I just have to swallow my pride.

 
Old 08-14-2009, 01:07 PM   #8
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I hope this response will be allowed, here goes.
Alot of time the woman would rather be on top and just rub hard
against you to orgasm, penis inserted or not.

This might be something for you to think about, I have encountered
this several times I my life.

 
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Scared kid since you do get erections and ejaculate there is nothing a doctor or urologist can do for you since your case cannot be helped by surgery or pills. There is however something that will help immensely. On the Emofree website you will find a free downloadable manual that explains the technique very well. You can do this yourself or if you want you can search on the same website for a practitioner in your area. They generally charge about 50 bucks an hour. One or two sessions should do it for you. Please do this as it will help.
This same website has hundreds of case historys and all have improved.

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Old 08-15-2009, 01:59 PM   #10
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I could be wrong, but much of your problem could just be in your mind/head. You imagine that having sex with a real girl would give you no physical sensation, but you haven't tried it out yet. This is a kind of preconception, and actually you need to go to bed with women many times and then fail every time you do before you can say you have a problem. This is what I think.

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Old 08-17-2009, 07:51 AM   #11
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Thanks for all the replies! They helped a lot.

I only have one more concern and that is about my testicles. As I said my left testicle hangs a lot lower. Sometimes they look even, but at other times the left one hangs so low that its almost completely under the right one. The left one is a bit bigger and more firm. Could this be the reason? Is it normal? Why is the left one different?

 
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one hanging lower is normal, and one could feel more firm but with you concerns you should see the doctor for clear, professional information.
Do not be shy or embarrassed about your concerns & questions.
let us know what you decide and the out come from the doctor
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:58 AM   #13
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Scaredkid do not concern yourself about the hanging of your testicles. They are outside the body for a reason instead of tucked safely out of the way. They need to be cooler than the rest of the body in order to function optimally. When the body is very warm they will hang lower and when the body is cold they will retract up close to the body. They self regulate. One hanging lower is normal.

 
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You can masturbate however you want. The main issue is how things would be with girl. Most girls will tend to stroke the penis and may to totally confused as to how to bring your pleasure. You might want to make up an articifical vagina to masturbate with to ensure you can have normal sex. I am sure there are suggestions for making one on the internet somehow, using some soft foam and thin trash bag material perhaps. Try something like that out. You may need to retrain your body, and it may take a period of refraining from any sexual relief until you will explode regardless of what you do. In that case, masturbate normally and then after that only masturbate normally, or with the artificial vagina.

Your testicles sound normal.

 
Old 08-21-2009, 04:24 AM   #15
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Hy scary!
relaxe and let it go and search and use your own way of sex. each man and wife will have its own way - you too!
And all ways are good and normal, which brings the target effect - the orgasm, and do not demange anyother.
look at me - im longtime married an have mostly to masturbate with some hard things beside (which i cant describe you here!). I believe, i have a strong sadomaso-predisposition, even since my earlearst childness, since i can think!
And im lucky married and have 4 childs with this predisposition and duing.
I believe, you are a little as like me, a bit sadomaso...
take it easy! You are so and its good so and you can live your life so well.
And masturbate and have love and sex in your own way - this says to you a old grandfather with longlife experiences and a bad english....

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