in your 1st post u ask what r u doing wrong. why r u putting this on u. From what u said in both posts, I doubt u r doing anyting wrong at all.
1. anti depresants such as effexor or effoxor xr are known to dampen sexual desirer!
2. If you go to viagra section of this board u will see postings for viagra to conteract the effects of meds such as effexor xr.
3. My brother (my next oldest brother), went from effexor xr to lexapro for just that reason. Lexapro is a new version of celexa which also is an anti depres. it depresant. Lexapro is supposed to nto cause the 2 biggest side effects of anti depr. a. lack fo interst in sex & b. lower the urge to eat.
The drs. 1st thought was to try to change anti depres. if that did not work he woudl have tried the viagra, but felt why add an extra rx when changing one may work just as well. So far he has gone back to his fairly ripped look and he and his g/f seem to be back to hardly keeping their hands off of each other. Look lexapro up online and also see the viagra section of htis board. take care and do not think it is u. Too many people sell themselves short by saying what am I doing worng. Sometimes things happen and it has nothing to do with u doing anything worng, take care.......hap