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Old 09-02-2003, 10:35 PM   #1
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Unhappy No orgasm (and no ejaculation) during sex

Please, please help me.
At this point I have become really distressed and I honestly don’t know what to do.

I am 22 years old and I would say that I am a very healthy young man.
Everything is fine except that to this date I have been unable to have an orgasm or even ejaculate during sex.
So far I have had sex a couple of times with some girls that I hooked up with (no long term girl-friend till now) and I am getting anxious that I might never have an orgasm while having sex with a woman.
(And I can’t imagine that any woman would want me as her boyfriend since she would probably think I don’t enjoy sex with her.)
At first the girls liked it that I stayed hard, and hard, and hard ... but then I could feel how they started thinking that something is wrong with me.
They tried and tried to bring me to orgasm till they just had to give up.

To be honest I also do not really orgasm while ejaculating even when I “put my own hands to good use”.
The only way that it feels any good when I do it myself is, when I rub the head.
But instead of shooting sperm, I urinate.
And i have noticed that my testicles don't rise to the occasion as I think they should - I heard that close before ejaculation the testicles don't hang down as much but "rise" to the base of the penis - but I can do whatever i want, they just hang down.
Luckily that has so far never happened while having sex but I am really distressed.

But I know that I can shoot “real bullets” as I can do it once in a while when doing the deed myself but a little differently:
When my penis is not erect and I am lying on my stomach and I have some harder surface beneath me, I can rub myself to orgasm with ejaculation against it.

I do not know what to do. Is something wrong with me? Is there anything I can do?
This is so humiliating, it is almost like being impotent at my age.
It is so humiliating that I cannot bring myself to see a doctor, so I posted here in hopes that somebody could help me ….


[This message has been edited by Variable (edited 09-03-2003).]

 
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Old 09-03-2003, 01:14 AM   #2
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Well Variable..I think u should´nt be so embarsed and go see a good doctor...an urologist. They are here especialy to help with this situations. Its not like u are "almost impotent" since u not just get hard, but mantain it for longer that u would like...U can have sex,just cant enjoy it completely.
About the "rubing head" thing, I have the same sensation just after I masterbate. I go wash my penis and when I rub my haed, feels realy good, and its a bit like an orgasm but I shoot urine insted of sperm. By this time my penis its only half-erect.
Perhaps someone in this forums can help u but u should see a doctor... maybe its no big deal n ease to cure...

 
Old 09-04-2003, 03:52 PM   #3
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I just don't know how doctors can help help me to "enjoy sex more" ...
and I have been looking around some and found out that some other people have had the same problem.
they can't reach orgasm (and ejaculate) during sex.
The felling during sex certainly is nice but it just doesn't do it. And I am even unable to masturbate myself to orgasm while stroking my penis.
Only rubbing it against a hard surface while lying down gets me off.
Last time I had sex I tried for close to 6 hours to orgasm and I couldn't do it.
When I came home it took me barely 1 minute doing the above to shoot.

This is really driving me nuts. It is almost as bad as being impotent or even worse ... at least there would be a pill to remedy impotence in most cases.

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Old 09-06-2003, 01:19 AM   #4
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In first place, u dont know if theres a pill or not for u, since u dont even know what u r dealing with.
Thats how a Doctor would help you, figuring out what is the problem with ur lack of orgasms!
Perhaps U r missing some hormone. Since u seem to have a normal sexual drive, I beleave u r not with a low testosterone...may be u r in lack of that "walfare" hormone(I dont remember the name of it...Im no doctor)...
Or perhaps its a mechanical thing, with ur nervous terminations in the penis( again, Im no Doc.)...

Any way, going to a specialist u may know exactly what s the problem. Thats the only efective way to deal with it. U will know for sure if theres a pill or not...or any other treatment to it.
Just make sure u pick a GOOD doctor. A specialist I hope, ´couse I heard the Doctora are USUALY very ignorant with sexual things...Keep faith...and keep me informed.

 
Old 09-08-2003, 04:25 PM   #5
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Hello Variable,

Good news for you! From your detailed description I was able to pick up on your problem. You are suffering from something called "Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome",it is the habit of masturbating in a face down postition. I'm no expert at this syndrome but you will find plenty of information (How to cure it!) in a certain website. Because it is agains't the rules to post web adresses, I can only tell you to make a search in google for " masturbation syndrome " and it should be the fourth search result. Take a look at it, I'm sure you will find you're answers there.

Good Luck and keep us posted on results!

Sublime23

 
Old 09-08-2003, 11:59 PM   #6
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Thank you so much!!!
I found the website and I am going to follow their suggestions.
Totally stop masturbating the way I am doing it right now and only masturbating the "normal" way.
I had already planned to do so, but hearing it from someone else is very reassuring ... and hearing that it can be cured.

You have no clue, how depressing this condition can be.
It is almost like being impotent but only it is the exact opposite. Eternal hardness, sex without orgasm ...

I had already started to masturbate my way but stop just before the grand finale and finish it off the "normal" way ...
At least that proved to me that it is not something physical.

Hopefully I can cure this soon, so I can confidently get a GF.

 
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