can't keep an erection at 23
im 23 years old and i have been dealing with this issue for a couple years now. i first want to say that it is great to know that im not the only one out there with an issue like this. i am a very sexual person, always thinking about it and still getting a random erection in the middle of the day from imagining what happens with my girlfriend and i.
the problem hasnt been around forever i first started noticing it at the age of 20, i was never really a sexually active person, maybe because i was shy, but when i would drink i would bring girls back and was never able to perform. i would blame it on the alcohol. i would get an erection and then it would go away. when i was 21 ish i remember getting oral sex and keeping an erection but not being able to ejaculate.
another time to that i was receiving oral sex, after already having and losing an erection, i ejaculated prematurely, not even hard. i began thinking something was wrong with me and started to take over the counter erection aids which seemed to help temporarily.
with my most recent girlfriend who is an amazing girl, erectile dysfunction has been happening more frequently. when i masturbate i am able to get hard and ejaculate without a problem. when i do not apply constant pressure i lose it
during foreplay i am able to get an erection early on and possibly keep it for a minute or two but i start thinking about it and tell myself "you need to keep this erection." i would say that i put a lot of pressure on myself because if i loose it and with as many times as its happened, we both get very disappointed. I have seen the doctor 3 time and every time they have told me it mental. i have had testosterone tests done twice and they came back normal both time, i am physically in good shape and i drink socially but do not smoke. i live a healthy lifestyle. they have prescribed me viagra and cialis, which by the way i prefer cialis. but the worst part is that occasionally the pill (50mg) wont work and i am left unable to preform. we have had sex without any viagra or cialis before but i am unable to consistently repeat that.
masturbation is always very successful, but when we try to have sex or even oral sex i go limp. if i can get it inside of her it is normally fine but getting to that point is what the difficult part is. i have never had my prostate checked but the doctors tell me thats not what it is. how would i know if it had anything to do with nerve damage? i still feel it.
thanks for listening, any help would be much appreciated.
Last edited by Mod-S4; 09-23-2010 at 08:51 PM.