someone please help me
i wasn't sure what to put in the subject line...but anyway here goes; im sixteen years old and have been in a relationship for nine months. a few months ago my girlfriend gave me oral sex for the first time. im sure you all can imagine what this was like for a 16 year old. I had dreamed of this moment. just the idea practically put me over the edge. so at first i thought i was just outside of the moment. but then i realized what was happening...i hardly felt anything. i could see what she was doing to me, but i could harldy feel it. needless to say i was somewhat disappointed, but i didn't let my girlfriend see that. It was her first time to do anything like that as well, so i decided that my reaction to it was simply due to her inexperience. i don't remember how much time went by, but a few nights later she decided to try again. I felt sure that this time i would be less nervous and therefore would enjoy myself thoroughly, but low and behold, i had the same reaction, which was practically none at all. So this is my problem: everytime my girlfriend performs oral sex on me or gives me a hand job, I cannot have an orgasm. it isn't that i lose my erection, its just that i can't climax. Ive always been under the impression that guys didn't take much to have an orgasm, i guess thats just a stereotype though. Is my girlfriend doing something wrong? or is it me? do i have a subconcious fear of physical intamacy?(not sure if such a condition exists...i guess if im going to ask that i should add that ive never had an experience that i feel would result in that i.e. sexual abuse or embarrassing incidents) i say subconcious b/c i by all means i find her very attractive and want her to be able to make me orgasm. oh yeah, i know its not that i can't orgasm or ejaculate or whatever, b/c i can without fail bring myself to orgasm...
So what should i do? any advice would be greatly appreciated as well as accounts of similiar experiences. i hope there are some... oh; just ask if you have any other questions on points i didn't cover. sorry this is so long