Hi I'm an 18 year old virgin, but recently me and my g/f have started masturbating each other and having oral sex. My problem is I still haven't been able to have an orgasm when I'm with her. She's given me oral and hand jobs, and it still doesn't work. I can get her off, but I'm really frustrated b/c I would really love to experience this with her. It feels like it's not as good as when I masturbate by myself. Could it be that I'm nervous, or that I masturbate too often (once or twice a day)? Please respond.
Yep...it sounds like you've trained yourself to only enjoy cuming the exact way you do do it when you masterbate. Seriously cut back on your masterbating and just let yourself relax when your with her.
I second that advice. I was the same way when I first started having sex - had problems having an orgasm with my partner but could have an orgasm when I masturbated. As I cut back masturbating and my partner tried different ways of stimulating me, it helped alot and I was finally able to achieve orgasm when I became more relaxed and comfortable with him and with the way I climaxed.
Thanx for the advice. I've stopped masturbating for now, so that this situation can get better. I'm pretty sure thats what the problem is, just hope I can get over it soon. Anyways, thanx. Anyone else?
Our friend gets very accustomed to our grip, technique, speed, and style of masturbation. It's pretty common for it to take a bit of "getting used to" someone else working on it. Take your time and enjoy the new "help." Certainly cutting back on masturbating will help too, just give yourself some time. One hint, try not to get too frustrated over this as that can really mess up the process. Our two heads are very much connected!
