Three years ago my now 44 year old husband was having trouble maintaining an erection. He went to the doctor who put him on Viagra. Things have been almost normal since that time up until the last three months. Now it is back and worse than before. We haven't had successful intercourse in three weeks. During foreplay he has a normal erection and then once we move on to intercourse, he loses it. I feel like things are fine until he looks at my body and that is what is causing it. It is really putting a strain on our marriage. Advice, please!
He could have some sort of circulation problem that has got worse. My doctor has ordered a stress test to check my heart because she says the fact that viagra works for me may indicate that sort of problem. Erections are caused by blood pressure being banked up to fill the penis cavities with blood. If there is something slowing down the flow of blood in the arteries leading to the penis then erections may not work properly. The nature of circulatory disease means it usually gets worse as time goes on so don't jump the gun and blame him. Before I went on viagra I could get an erection sometimes but had great difficulty maintaining it. I suspect he needs to see a doctor about this as it sounds like the viagra is no longer able to overcome his circulatory problem.
If he can maintain an erection during foreplay, that would indicate that it isnt a physical 'problem'. A lot of sexual disfunction is mental - not physical. If the Viagra didnt work, maybe he should talk to his doctor and/or a counsellor (and I dont suggest asking him 'why' as the previous poster mentioned - that would just compound any negative thoughts he is having, which would just add to the problem)
Well, i mean, tell him that you noticed that he loses his erection and was wondering if there was something wrong. You have to be open with him.. and he needs to be able to share his thoughts/feelings towards this situation.