A year ago my husband started to have a problem with his "firmness". When I first mentioned this to him he denied noticing it. After a month or so, he brought up the subject and said that yes he had noticed, but thought it would "go away". We have always talked very openly about our sex life and have always been very "adventurious with each other". We have been in a monogomious relationship for 18 years and I have NO question that he is faithful!!(and so am I <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
So over the past year it hasen't gotten any better and when I suggest going to his Dr. he says: "Ok" but always has an excuse to not making an appointment or asking me to make one for him. My question is, I GUESS: Should I just go ahead and make the appt and then let him know when it is, or do you think he is not ready to go to the DR. since he won't tell me to make the appointment?
I really think if I just go ahead and make the appt. that he would go, but I want to know a man's opinion on how you would feel about this. Is it that maybe he just isn't ready to admit he has a problem(although we have discussed it many times) and he does realize it is a problem?
He turned 50 last May and has had lower back problems for MANY years, which he see's a Chriopracter for every three months. He works every day(is in construction) and is in very good physical condition.(except for the usual "pop-belly" from my good home cookin').
I would appreciate ANY advice...thanks guys!
For some reason one of the most difficult things we guys do is go to the doctor. And then when our "equipment" is the issue...that makes it much worse. Sounds as if he would do it if you make the appointment...so I'd go ahead and schedule then let him know when it is. Although I'd probably make the appt and go, sounds as if he needs a little "encouragement", hopefully he'll follow through!
Hi , I am 51 and also have noticed a difference in my sex drive and sometimes firmness, I still want sex more often more than my wife, but am not quite satisfied with my longevity and firmness, have a physical scheduled for January, am in quite good shape all around, and will bring up the viaigra question, I heard its great and safe.
Here's another answer from a 50 Y.O. guy, its true, going to the doctor and talking about our equiptment is a subject we have problems with, (I go to the doc annually for a full check up, and will go other times if theres any problems, but will wait a while first)Definetely, make the appointment, he'll go - just needs the "push". At 50 your sex life is usually better because many of lifes interruptions are gone (like kids) ha-ha-ha! (with them the bigger they get, the bigger the probmels-but thats another topic)
So Yes make that appointment and enjoy your life!
Definately make the appointment for him and mention that you would like a complete physical for him if he doesn't do this routinely and mention that he is have problems with his erections so that you are sure this gets addressed also. I make all of my husbands appointments for him since he knows that I know just what to ask for or what to say etc. Since I am in the nursing field I also accompny him to all his appointments since I keep closer track of all his medications for him as well as his medical history......this is just a given in our household and he even gets worried if he suspects I am not coming along with him to an appt. Go in with your husband and talk openly about all of your concerns and the doc should be able to help you both.
Most of the food we eat today is severely lacking in essential vitamins. Supplement with 100 MG natural complex B, 20 mg natural Zinc and 100 mg of E. This will give hubby the kick start he needs, and it will reduce his stress level and increase his stamina. Stay away from fat causing foods and eat naturally as much as possible. It will help...a LOT!
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