My current girlfriend is the only girl to do these things to me. Also, I am her first in the same regard. I always hear about how great bjs are but I seriously prefer a hj. Maybe its cause my girl is doing it wrong? A hj is better for me because she can go alot faster and apply the perfect pressure this way? Any comments or advise that I might be able to pass on to my girl.
Our penis becomes very accustomed to the style of masturbation we prefer, and yes, each of us is different in that regard. So, you're conditioned to a tight grip and the speed at which you masturbate. I much prefer oral sex when my wife is "up to it." Give yourself some time, she needs to close her mouth tightly around your penis and move up and down the shaft with a "sucking" pattern. She can also stimulate you by masturbating the base of your penis while doing the oral thing. Practice makes perfect, so take some time and work through this. One other tip, your penis needs to get used to dealing with "things" other than your hand and masturbation.....although you'll keep doing that for yourself, there'll be other times when your penis will be working with something/someone other than you and your hand!
I dont prefer one over the other. I think it all depends on the mood that I am in. I do tend to ejaculate quicker when I recieve a hand job. I also tend to shoot my load farther. I usually end up shooting in on my chest. When i recieve a blow job I usually let the woman know when i am going to explode and then my sperm usually just oozes out. I think i like hand jobs better because it involves the whole penis. I dont like lube either. I am circumcised, but I was cut pretty loosely so the skin can still glide up and down my shaft. I like the up and down motion of a blow job too. It is all good!!!
There's absolutely nothing wrong or strange about your preferring a "hand job" over a "bj." It does have its own distinct advantages. People respond to various stimulations in their own way, and there's no reason to feel you should change unless you want to.
I like both BJ's and HJ's but find I can usually only come when a hand is involved.
The best oral sex techniques use both the hand and the mouth.
Try this technique:
Use hand and mouth as normal according to what you have told her feels good. Once she is ready to make you come, she can use her hand to form a circle (with thumb and forefingers) and hold it against her mouth as she takes you in and out. Her hand strokes you like a hj while her mouth keeps everything warm and well-lubed. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/t_up.gif">
