Make sure you get a girl wet before you start, and do a lot of teasing!(because it makes her want it more) Start out using one. And you'll know if she wants it hard and fast or not...so don't just stick your fingers in and start going wild unless she wants it that way. Don't forget to wash your hands, and don't stick dry fingers in there either.
You can go to the sites if you truly want to. Unless of curse they have the program we got for our own kids. It tracks the sites and chats taht take place while on the computer. If you parents dont have that program it is simple to make srue they dont find out what sites you have visited. You can earse the history by going into your settings and then click on control panel. Then from there go to interent options. On that you wil choose to do two things. Clear history which will wipe out what sites were visited from the tool bar for the internet. Then you click on the the option to delete files for the temporary internet files. You can do all this isn the Windows program. The sites are nonporn like I have said and mostly information.
The reason I gave the sites is simply because all women are different and that will give you a basis to go on. You truly need to talk to your gf to find out what she may like.
Contrary to popular male myth, most women don't like a lot of "in and out" with the fingers.
Fingers are one of the most incompatible things to put inside a girl.
But here's something you can do that she'll like and it's a nice slow way to start out and hopefully she'll give you indications on how to proceed.
First of all, touch her in other places first. Never go for the naughty bits right away. When the time's right, slide your hand, palm down, over her 'mound. At this point, dont even use your fingers separately. Cup your hand so it fits nice and firmly (not too hard) Now move your hand down between her thighs, and then back up. These are very subtle movements. There are two moves here, one is to lightly move your hand -over- the skin, the other is to use a little more pressure so the skin moves back and forth with your hand. Make sure your palm is positioned right over the ****.
This creates a very sensual feeling and it's non-intrusive so it doesn't look like you're moving too fast.
When you get the okay, let your hand (freshly washed!) slip further down, keeping your hand nice and close against her pubic bone and your fingers will naturally curl around the tip and slide nicely inside.
Remember, not a lot of "in and out", but once you get in, apply pressure by tapping the pad of your finger against the inside wall of her vagina. Check out the unique texture inside.
Also, when your finger is fully inserted, you can taptap the G-spot which is about fingertip-deep, on the front wall. It won't feel distinctive to you so much, but it's there.
After doing some of what Krista suggested and you feel your partner is ready to come, use two fingers to "straddle" the ****. Move them in a circular motion, slowly at first and building as your partner requests.
More on Kista's response. The G-spot is located on the front of the vaginal wall as she explained. Looking at the female privates, picture a clock. The G-spot can be between 11-1 o-clock. 1-3 inches inside and on the front wall.
Curl your finger as if you were making the "come-here" jesture, in this area and she'll let you know when you find the G-spot. Slight pressure against the "spot" is what feels good. Or so I've been told. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
Kista- Thanks for letting us in on the in and out fingers thing. My wife though must not be one of the most women you mentioned though. She's grabbed my hand and done the In and Out thing for me. Took that as a sign she must be enjoying it. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
Another piece of advice.........try to do this only if your girlfriend is wearing loose pants or no pants at all. All my memories of being fingered are from high school in the early 80's, when we all wore our jeans so tight we could hardly breathe. I usually had my pants on, just unzipped.....the guy would cram his hand down there and it did NOT feel good! Consequently, I HATE being fingered and have not had it done since about 1984.....!!LOL!
I'm curious what part of her was gettting the most stimulation? I mean, was she pushing you in deep, so you were tap-tapping her cervix? Was it the g-spot?
I'm just wondering because, for the most part, the opening itself doesn't have a specific hot spot. Obviously I can't speak for all women, but that's how it is for me. How about it, ladies? What is your opinion?
Kista sorry this took so long had a Hard drive crash last week, hopefully you'll see this.
It was the G-spot and her ****. She almost always likes it fast and hard. I'm not sure she really realizes she's doing it this way but she has taken my wrist and actually used my hand like a toy. I usually move my fingers around as much as I can, trying to hit the G-spot (Depending on the postion we're in) and massage the **** with the area between my index finger and my thumb. She likes her cervix tap-tapped also. Guess it just depends on her mood at the time. Se doesn't complain much, so I guess that's good huh? <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Sure sounds okay to me Rocky. One thing I've learned is that people are not necessarily affected the same way with the same stimulation. I speak generally, because wow, I had a gf tell me she got an orgasm when a guy was playing with her nipples...and nothing else! no clitoral contact at all.
I know what you mean about the cervix being tap-tapped. For me, I like it hard and fast when I am close to reaching an O. There's a couple of reasons that I can see, and maybe other's I haven't yet identified.
For one thing, I get very wet and that takes away the friction. Plus, and I wonder if this applies to other people, as I get closer, I can't seem to feel the pressure inside as much. Something changes inside, maybe my body is making too much lubrication or shoot, maybe the vagina responds by opening up more, in the same way the outer lips puff up, flaring the opening in anticipation.
whatever it is, that's when I actually want the in and out...as a matter of fact, I demand it. hehehehe