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Old 05-12-2001, 10:46 PM   #1
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sick of sex

Hi,

This is for the guys. Is sex the only thing you guys think of. I noticed that in the female sex board over half the questions are dealing with relationship issues as well as sex.. and on this board its all about the size,defect and how-to on penises. Whats up with that. It is just so dam displeasing to say the least.

 
Old 05-12-2001, 11:01 PM   #2
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Re: sick of sex

What do you want to ask? I don't mean to say that guys don't care about relationships because we do, but this <B><I>IS</B></I> a sex message board. Men tend to focus more on the physical than the emotional.

I myself get annoyed by the plethora of penis size, and masturbation questions, but that is what men care about. In the minds of a lot guys if there penis is unsatisfactory there is no reason to have a relationship.

I don't mean to be condescending but your post shows a general lack in understanding of how mens minds work.

 
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Old 05-13-2001, 09:10 PM   #3
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Re: sick of sex

That's easy, I'll answer your concerns with one word:


TESTOSTERONE!!!!

 
Old 05-13-2001, 09:45 PM   #4
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Re: sick of sex

Please don't be angry and disgusted about how guys feel about sex. We are what we are and we can not change it. As a 46 year old guy, I have to confess that sex for me has always been in my penis. When I first get excited, it starts in my penis and the feeling grows there and ends there too. It's a truely wonder feeling, beyond any words to describe and a feeling that I want to repeat over and over again. I don't think that women have the same rapid intense focussed feeling that can sweep over a guy in a matter of seconds. We are different you and I, and that is the way nature intended.

As I slowly became completely impotent with zero libido (due to a brain tumor) I can tell you that my world was destroyed. I can not describe to you how terrible it was to have that happen, how empty my life became, despite having a loving beautiful wife and a warm lovely baby.

When I was finally diagnosed and given back my sexuality, I realized how important sex is and how sex was so centered in my penis. I also discovered that without testosterone, a guy can be hurt and cry very easily, I spent many night crying for no apparent reason.

It sounds selfish and so penis based. But that is the way it is for me and I guess lots of other guys. So take joy in the pleasure you can give to a man for he loves you all the more for it. And take pity on him because he his first real love was his penis and it remains his first love even as he takes vows to love you too.

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Old 05-14-2001, 03:02 AM   #5
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Re: sick of sex

You came to the wrong place to vent Sherrie, maybe you should read the message board rooms name before you enter, this is the MENS SEXUAL HEALTH room, if you dont like it dont come in.

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Old 05-14-2001, 10:49 AM   #6
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Sherri......... know the difference between a mans zipper and a women's zipper?? (humm she says) When a woman unzips, her BRAINS don't fall out. This should answer your question. Come back to where you belong <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/biggrin.gif">

 
Old 05-14-2001, 12:23 PM   #7
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LOL!! Love the joke!!

I agree, men and women are set up so differently and think so differently. Very few men are willing to admit to insecurities or relationship fears as women are. Plus, they don't ever think they do anything wrong, so what else would there be to discuss but their penises and their wives who don't want sex! (JUST KIDDING GUYS!!!)

Sherrie, we'll never change them, just gotta love them the way they are. Their penises are just an extra added bonus! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/biggrin.gif">

Take Care!
Sherri.

 
Old 05-18-2001, 05:14 AM   #8
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It is a very primal trait that is not likely to change in our lifetime. Generally speaking, guys think of sex as just pure enjoyment. Women tend to attach a lot of emotions to it.

What bothers me the most is that it seems impossible for them to stick with one partner. Or maybe I've just grown cynical.

 
Old 05-18-2001, 07:34 AM   #9
 
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Just the other day, my BF and I were having a talk about men's "preoccupation" with sex. He is 41, and he told me that one of his concerns is that he will die without having as much sex as humanly possible! He went on to explain (and confirm what has been stated in the previous posts) that sometimes men really are a slave to their penis; they recognize it is shallow, but they just can't help it.
As a woman, I have to admit that I don't understand these feelings and I think it's rather sad to be so focused on your genitalia.....but I accept that he feels this way, and respect him for being honest. I guess he feels the same way about my crazy need to sit up and talk til the wee hours of the morning! ;-)

 
Old 05-18-2001, 10:45 AM   #10
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Hi all,

I just wanted to mention that just because guys don't tend to attach physical and emotional relations together, doesn't mean we don't want the emotional part. Ofcourse I can only speak for myself, but as a guy I think of sex as just physical enjoyment and love as the emotional bond between two people and I don't attach them to each other. It doesn't mean I don't want love and marriage. I care far more about the emotional part than the physical but I can't remember the last time (if ever) that I wanted to talk about relationships. I can name a dozen times just in the last week, when I talked about sex yet sex is far less important than the bigger things like love.

Sherrie, if you're worried that guys just care about sex and nothing more, trust me its not true. Its true that sex is on guys' minds alot because we are made that way but we (most) care about all aspects of a relationship.

Besides, this is a Sexual Health Board right? So its only natural to talk about what the forum is about.

Also kista mentioned something about it being impossible to stick to one person. This is actually a pretty debatable topic because the only animals in nature to be monogamous are pigeons. Is it in our nature to be monogamous or are we forcing ourselves into it? That can be a pretty debatable topic. I personally think we are supposed to be monogamous but you never know. Anyways, I'm going off topic here.

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Old 05-20-2001, 01:56 PM   #11
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quote: This is actually a pretty debatable topic because the only animals in nature to be monogamous are pigeons. Is it in our nature to be monogamous or are we forcing ourselves into it?

Oooh, good point, Lightning. In the animal kingdom, the typical role of a strong, healthy male is to impregnate as many females as possible. Allegedly, there are several monogamous species, Canadian Geese included, but overall, it is rare.
Women face a similar situation. My theory is that girls are meant to bear children at a much younger age than our society would have us believe. Think about it. There is a great sexual surge at around 14-15 yrs old, (even sometimes younger) where the girls are going thru puberty. Left to our own instincts, this is where many pregnancies would occur. As a society, we run a massive campaign to make people fight this and wait another 4 or 5 years.
Go to any teenage dance or get-together. The hormones fill the air like a dense fog.

What do you think?

 
Old 05-28-2001, 07:12 AM   #12
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btw, I am very sexually charged. I've come to the conclusion that I have the sex drive of a guy. I get so horny sometimes that I'm afraid other people can see it on my face. I don't get grossed out or self-conscious about trying new things or exploring new territory...and I don't mind getting my hands dirty. I guess you could say I'm a 'butt girl', which undoubtedly gives me a nice label. I masturbate regularly without shame or guilt, it's as common to me as making coffee. hehe I did it under the blankie while me and my bf were watching the Devils/Avalanch game on Saturday night and he never even knew. gotta love hockey. &lt;drool&gt;
I discovered orgasms by water stream at the age of 9, which quickly led to doing it by hand. I didn't know anything about male/female interactions, or about sex at all. I just knew that when I do this, I get rewarded with one of these. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">

I'm not promiscuous, actually I'm pretty selective...I just consider sex one of the most gratifying, relaxing and rewarding thing you can do.

 
Old 06-01-2001, 03:02 PM   #13
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Re: sick of sex

Hi everyone,

Thanks for all your responses. It is nice to know that not all men are that way and I suppose even if they are- what can we do but just find the positives in it- for one it probably would be mundane if men were just llike women even though we don't think of that cause we are too busy complaining about why they think so differently. But ya, thanks.

 
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