I've just turned 18 and I've never had sex with another person, though I masturbate regularly. My problem is that I get little, if any, pleasure from masturbation, even when I ejaculate. Masturbation is to me not something to be done because it feels good, just something to relieve some sexual tension. I am getting more and more frustrated by this because I really want to get some pleasure from masturbation. I'm also worried that when I have sex with a partner I will have the same problem. I have tried anal masturbation, but I couldn't feel anything from that either. I have tried lots of techniques, but none produced any more sexual feelings. If I pull back the foreskin and just touch very lightly on the head of my penis, I can't feel anything at all, not even that something is touching the head. Is there a medical condition that could cause numbness of the penis, or am I just a freak?!
Masturbation is usually VERY pleasurable, sounds as if you are uncut and those of us who are usually receive great pleasure around the head of the penis and the area that receives less stimulation because of the foreskin. Have you tried fully retracting the foreskin and using different types of lubrications? If not you might try this. I suppose that there may be something causing the "numbness" but wouldn't have a clue where to start. Keep working at it!
Thanks for your reply. You are correct in your assumption - I am indeed uncut. Sometimes I do retract the foreskin all the way and just rub on the exposed head, but I actually find this produces a rather unpleasant feeling. Well, not unpleasant as such, but just very intense, and I have to stop. I have recently bought some K-Y, and this has improved the situation. After about 5 mins of masturbation my penis becomes more sensitive and I start to actually feel something. The trouble is that I then cannot control my orgasm and I ejaculate immediately. Perhaps this just calls for lots of practice <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/redface.gif">)
Well, it sounds like you are putting a great deal of stress on the importance of connecting masturbation with pleasure. And you would be quite right! Masturbation is supposed to cause pleasure throughout the whole process. I don't think you are a freak, and i doubt that there is a problem with the fact that you have a medical problem. I think though it is possible that you feel you have a problem and therefore you do! If that makes any sense. Many people believe that they are unwell or are unable to perform sexually, and whilst they think that, most of the time, they actually do have a problem!
It is important to relax and take things easy! When you are masturbating, or touching yourself whether it be anally or not, make sure that you have nothing to be disturbed by and that you have the time completely to yourself.
Sometimes stress, anxiety and the constant thought that there is something else that needs to be done can affect a persons ability to receive pleasure!
I think you will be fine, but as mentioned before, just take it easy and don't place too much of a burden that masturbation is just a way to relive tension!
let us know how you go!
Cheers,
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Nurse_oz is a Registered Nurse who works in a Major Paediatric Hospital in Australia
It does indeed take some practice, so keep working at it and enjoy. Your masturbation should be pleasureable and it's perfectly normal as an uncut male to have to deal with some super sensitivity to the head of your penis because it stays covered. But I repeat....once you've conditioned it not to be so sensitive, it'll provide some great pleasure for you. Glad to hear you're using the lubrication, that should help. Keep in touch and let us know how things are going.
*Super*-sensitivity? I think not! In order to produce this feeling I have to rub my penis *really* hard. Otherwise I don't feel anything at all! So I think super sensitivity is hardly the word!
