How many times can you guys mastrubate per day? How many times per week? Does it get less enjoyable if you don't allow for periods of rest in-between? Also, how long do you usually mastrubate?
I'm really ****** off. I usually do it for an hour. But, I can only do it once per day for about three days in a row before I "wear out." Then when I "wear out" I can't do it pleasurably for about a week and a half. In fact, during that period, I don't even get erections?
Each of us is different when it comes to masturbation. Usually when we are in our teens we can do it multiple times in one day and usually are capable of doing it every day. As we age and sex becomes more available the masturbation usually slows down a bit. The most I ever did was 4 times in one day but for a number of years I masturbated almost daily. The one thing I noticed was that the amount of ejaculation changed to much less the more I did it. However, don't judge yourself by others because like I said each of us is different. I would say that an hour is a long time to masturbate and it can be physically tiring. You don't give your age so its hard to discuss that possibility. Our bodies are created so that there is a period of time (called the refractory period) between one ejaculation and the next erection and ejaculation. This is often just a few minutes and will allow us to masturbate or have sex again in the same hour or two. Could there be something medical going on? Has this always been this way or is this a recent change? With a bit more info we may be able to offer other suggestions if you're comfortable answering these questions.
Jamie Silent.. my boyfriend is 26 and he has the maximum ejaculation of 2x a day. But he can't *** 2x a day everyday, he starts to get sore. We usually have sex every other day. I don't think you are abnormal. I also feel that if you keep trying, you might be able to handle more in the future.<p>[This message has been edited by HB_SXPatrol (edited 08-20-2001).]
To answer Lance's post: Yes, there's been something somewhat medical going on. I've had major depression for the past 6 years. At first, I attributed it to the medications I was taking, but I've medication free for about 6 months now. I believe I had this problem before the depression hit, although I was pretty young at the time, so it's hard to remember.
Not an expert on everything depression can do Jamie, but but I do know it and the meds can affect sexual performance. Even after you've been off of the meds for awhile.
I'm cut so the feelings I would have will be different than yours also, so I can't help when it comes to what you can and can't do to make it feel better. Lube can make a difference for all of us though.
First of all we are all different and how we do it is just as different. What I do, how often I do it may not be the same for any else either. What you should do is what you want to do. Nobody says you have to do it as often as they all do. If You want to do it today do it. Don't do it so you can be like someone else. Or be normal. There is no normal, other than people do do it. If you did it once a year, then you do do it.
I feel like you are placing to much importantance on how often you do it. You should do it because it feels good and you want to do it. But if you worry about how often it is happening what's the point? It doesn't feel good anyway.
Don't worry about it unless there is pain. Then it's a medical problem. I don't think this is what you've described.
I've gone days, even weeks with out masturbating. I never really thought about why, I just didn't want to. But I've also done it three or more times a day. Because I wanted to. My whole body wanted to if you follow me here. My head has felt like it before but other parts of my body didn't want to also. Oh well, maybe next time. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
My advice is to stop worring about if you're doing it right or how often. You know what feels good and when you want to masturbate. Don't compare you to anyone else, be you. Do it when you feel like it and how you want to do it. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
I'm not a man, but could it be that you're just pushing yourself too hard? I was single for a while after my divorce 8 years ago and I went through a 'dry' spell where I couldn't orgasm through masturbation no matter how hard I tried..but I finally just gave up for a while and quit trying so hard and eventually I got my groove back. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> Everyone is so different and maybe age has something to do with it, hormones, etc. I was just thinking that if you are able to get erections and masturbate pleasureably, just not as often, then maybe it is a 'mind' thing or a hormone/getting older thing rather than a medical thing.
I would think you could technically ejaculate (whether alone or with someone else) up to the double digits of times per day. Whether someone actually wants to do that or not is a different story. That would be an interesting thing for Guiness to get involved in though if they are not already.
Yes, usually the longer you wait to do it, the more pleasurable it is. You might want to spread yourself out to every few days rather than using up all that pleasure in three straight days.
Depression will sap your sex drive. Medication can just about kill it depending on which it is and how it affect you personally.
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That's a good point. Worry can lead to more problems.
I think a number of issues have arisen here out of the original question. First of all, it seems that men vary widely in the number of times they can masturbate(to the point of orgasm) in one day. Also, each man will vary within himself as to how often he can do it. If you are ill, tired or depressed, you will definitely not get a good response. Conversely, if you are happy, well, etc... you will get better performance.
Personally, I masturbated 5 times once in one day and it was unhealthy in the sense that I rubbed the head of my penis raw and lost any desire for any kind of sex for about 2 weeks. Don't try to break records- just do what feels good! I am 32 now and masturbate once per day, usually when I crawl into bed, and it feels great. I don't try any more than that.
The other issue that is coming up here is about what types of questions are being posted on this board. Us guys are very sex-conscious creatures and thus worry about anything that seems abnormal. We also need 'reality checks' with each other as to our experiences. Thus I feel that the question posed at the beginning of this thread is a good one.
My goals is really just to mastrubate once per day. But the problem is, after 3 days in a row, my sex drive dies for a week or more. I can sometimes still ejaculate during this period, but it just feels about the same as stroking my arm.
I think I need testosterone injections or some other sort of chemical treatment.
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My goals is really just to mastrubate once per day.
Jamie like I said before maybe your problem is you are setting this goal. How about instead of thinking about it as something you must do everyday, it's now going to be something you want to do everyday. If you miss a day or two, so what? You seem to be turning this into work, and it work you don't like. You said yourself it's like rubbing your arm. Is that fun?
Why do you feel like you have to do this everyday whether you really want to or not?
Well, the thing is, I really want to do it every day. I want to do it right now actually, thinking back - and remembering how good it felt. It's just that no matter what I do in terms of stimulation right now, I can't get a decent erection. This week, for instance, I was doing it each night for about 4 nights straight, but then my ability to enjoy it suddenly died. But, I still desperately want to do it and enjoy it.
Okay Jamie I follow you and i do understand what you are saying. But you've trained your mind to the point now that it's not going to feel good. Maybe you are worrying that you can't get the proper erection, and even if you do it's not going to feel good. Your mind is a sexual organ also. Just like with women your head has to be ready also.
Instead of thinking about how much you WANT to do it, just do it. Read a book or surf around the web some. Get up and try again. Stop thinking about it, and how it's not going to work this time. Maybe think about how you're going to wait for a couple of hours or so. Then when the time comes think about what stimulates you. Think about how good it does feel, not that it's not working again.
The key here is to stimulate your mind and your body, then get them to feel the same feelings. If you start thinking too much about it, stop and think about how you won't do that the next time.
We are all different in the number of times we would like to have have sex a week. Some people like it 4 times a day, a lot of people only 4 times a month. Apart from genetics, stress and depressions play a big role in this. However it sounds like you want to have sex , but you can't get hard anymore unless you had a suffieciently long break.
Longer than you would like, as I understand it. To get a better idea of what your problem is like : Do you get hard morning erections at least 1-2 times a week
Do you get hard enough for intercourse? DO you sometimes get spontaneous erections when you tink erotic things?
The fact that you want to masturbate makes me believe it is not really a testosterone problem. It is also very unlikely since you are only 19. However it could be and also your other hormones could be off track.
I would get them tested, that's all. It could be high a Prolactin, which is often linked to depression or other disfunctions of your endocryne system. So my advice is, if you still think you have a problem , get it tested before carrying on with any more speculation.
If you do PLEASE give us feedback.
I was in a similar situation, but I only had it tested after a lot of the problems were resolved and I am not sure if I did have a low testosterone at some stage.
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I'm gonna tie into another post with something else. Our two heads are VERY connected and can influence each other. It does appear that you are focusing too much energy on the issues at hand (no pun intended!) At 19 I probably wanted to every day also (and may have but don't remenber!) however, we do reach a point when maybe we've overdone it or our body isn't quite ready for it again. OR it's not pleasureable because we've convinced ourselves that things aren't working properly. I'd suggest stopping all together and focus on other things for a few days, maybe even a week. Then, just like you would for a sexual encounter set up a situation that feels erotic to you. It could very well be that your depression and medications are playing a role here. It might be good to have a check up and talk with a doc about what you are going through. However, I really think this is a "head thing" that you can overcome. Good luck
Jamie very good advice from Lance above. I agree with what he said to the letter. If you still are having a hard time with this after awhile talk to your Doc again. Explain how you feel about all of this. It can only help you even more. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
As a 19-year-old I attempted an all-day "wankathon" and managed to do it six times. I ached like hell afterwards. Three years on, I reckon I could do it 4 times.
Healthwise.. I can run a mile in under 8 minutes, I have major depression and social anxiety disorder.
The depression is pretty severe and incurable, so there's nothing that can be done about that.
-"To get a better idea of what your problem is like : Do you get hard morning erections at least 1-2 times a week?" No, I can't remember waking up hard at all.
-"Do you get hard enough for intercourse? Do you sometimes get spontaneous erections when you tink erotic things?" No. Sometimes, if I concentrate very hard, and touch myself, I can get hard. Hardly ever by thought alone.
The thing is. I really do want to do it. Let's use this week as an example. On Wednesday, I felt horny and was able to mastrubate without a problem, in fact, I went for an hour and a half. The next day, I felt a little less horny but went for it anyway and was able to mastrubate just fine, and it felt great. The third day, I felt horny, just a bit less than last time.. but I was browsing the web looking at pornography and had just seen a porno movie at a friends. So I figured it would work out, and it felt like it would in the beginning -- but it didn't. The sensations were very weak. It was only a slight tickle. I was still hard and could ejaculate whenever I felt I was ready, but the sensations and overall sexual feeling that usually accompanies mastrubation were completely absent! Needless to say, I was a bit angered. For the next series of days, I had absolutely no erections. I still can't get one, no matter how hard I try. Needless to say, I can't mastrubate.
