I have been seeing this quy for a short while. I like him a lot and he is attracted to me.. but the thing is he has told me that he does not give oral sex but he is always willing to recieve.. So my question out there is that are there other guys that share this viewpoint on sex and does this make someone a selfish person? I do not want to be going out with someone who is selfish. When I asked him why.. he says I just don't do that..
Sherrie, this is really up to you. I'm a guy and would never say anything like this to my wife. The biggest goal I have when it comes to sex is pleasing my partner. It's fun receiving of course but the more I give, the happier I am.
It's possible your boyfriend isn't this type of person. Maybe not just in the bedroom, but this is just the way he is. If you want to be with this type person, go for it girl!
There are a lot of guys who don't like the taste, smell, and so forth. Others have been raised to think this isn't something they should do. (Religous reasons?) I've heard some guys talking about how it isn't "Manly" enough even. (Boy they don't know what they are missing is all I can think.)
You know him better than any of us do, do you think he's selfish? Can you live with this? It's really up to you. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
My personal opinion is that makes him selfish. Sex is not about pleasing yourself it is about pleasing your partner. If he isn't willing to do what is necessary to please you then he IMO is being selfish, exspecially if he expects you to do that for him.
Any complaints he may have about taste, smell, or what ever can easily be fixed with a bar of soap, razor, and dental dam. If after all of this he still refuses then he is just selfish. (Again just my opinion)
I agree totally with the other responses. I love to receive oral sex but don't necessarily enjoy giving it. However, if I want my wife to please me that way then I better be willing to please her that way or I AM BEING SELFISH. A suggestion...just don't do it!
Are you guys pretty young? It could be that he's inexperienced and worried about it. Talk to him and see what you can find out... you should be able to communicate freely with him if your relationship has progressed to a sexual relationship.
I think it is selfish, and yes there are many men like him. That said, there are also many women who like to receive but not give. I do not think that something like this should be the end of the relationship. Of course, if his entire response to your questions is "I just don't do that..." I tend to think there may be problems that lead to the end just because of the lack of good communication. If he were to give you an actual reason, you could attempt to resolve the problem and move on. At the same time, you have to be willing to accept that actual reason if it is about you and not about women in general.
My vote is for SELFISH. I'm a 31 y/o F. I don't neccessarily enjoy giving head for the mere sake of giving head, but I DO enjoy pleasuring the guy I'm w/ and that happens to be a sure fire way of doing it, so if I'm making him happy, it makes me happy, and turns me on even! Again, your guy? SELLFISH!!!!!!!!!!
i would agree that this would be a selfish statement,"DEPENDING ON HIS TONE OF VOICE AND THE WAY HE ACTS WITH YOU OTHERWISE" i would love to give my wife oral but i have a very weak stomach when it comes to body fluids, it wouldn't take long down there before i was vomiting. you all must understand that this is a physical problem and not just a case of being selfish. maybe he is too embarrassed to admit such a weakness. by the way, my wife still gives oral to me although i ALWAYS reinforce to her that she doesn't have to if she doesn't want to, and be assured that i find OTHER ways to compensate and please her.....because we LOVE one another!!! matteo