Okay I can get in my boyfriend no prob but his girth is more than mine and I have never had it anal before. Everytime we try it hurts more and more but I keep wanting to experiment and take it in all the way. We use lotion for lube and that helps. What position works best and makes it the least uncomfortable? Anyone got a few good tips? He tells me to just relax and I try but it only goes to an extent.
Anything you guys can think of would be appreciated. thanx.
Your bf is right you need to relax. Second of all you need to use to proper lube. Lotion doesnt work as a lube because the skin absorbs it. You need to get the right stuff such as AstroGlide or KY lube. You can get it right beside the condoms in just about any store that sells condoms. Make sure you partner and yourself are using condoms because this activity does put you at higher risks for infections and stds.
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I've never had anal sex because I'm straight, but I have done anal masturbation many times.
The anus is a bunch of muscles basically. These muscles need to be stretched and relaxes to accept large objects. Obviously, use LOTS of lube. Just when you think you used enough, use more. If you don't have enough lube, it will be painful.
Also, try gradually expanding the anus before your bf inserts his penis by inserting increasingly larger objects. Start with a finger, and keep it inside for a while, allowing the anus to expand. Then insert something a little thicker, and leave it there for a few minutes. Do this until you can insert something about the size of your bf's penis without pain. Then you're ready to have anal sex with your bf.
So a little 'prep work' before you have sex should help a lot.
Also look for one of the lubes made especially for anal sex. Be sure to take your time and take it slow. Sometimes it takes a while for you to be able to stretch far enough to accomodate anal sex.
Wellllllllllllllll if it was up to me we would have tried some things out by now. Unfortunately, when we go to bed at night my boyfriend likes to sleep whereas I would rather be doing something else first. It wasn't like this at first either. ARRRRRGH! It's frustrating!
