hi,
well let me just start off saying that i am a 16 year old virgin and my girlfriend and i have been going out a while and we have done everything besides have sex... well just the other night we decided to have sex and my problem seems to be that when i took mine and her cloths off and got on top of her to get ready and stick it in I JUST WENT LIMP and by that i mean it was weird i couldn't get hard at all, she would grab it a bit and i would get like semi, but i couldn't get like a full erection, we tryed for a few minutes... i was so embarassed and i really don't understand it because i have no problem at all during foreplay... what is wrong with me? i have been really upset ever since and i just want to be able to please her, if anyone can please help me out at all it would be much appreciated... what do i do to overcome this? please...
thankyou for your time
Relax....Its normal. Now, take a really deep breath. Its called "PERFORMANCE ANXIETY", and its very common. Talk about this openly with your girlfriend, communication about this situation is very important. The more you discuss this, the more relaxed you will be when it comes time to perform. You are very young, and I would suggest also talking frankly about safe sex, std's, meaning deseases, and of course unwanted pregnancy. Hope this helps.
This is completely normal. At your age it takes a while to feel comfortable while having sex. The main reason is the power of mind. It means that you try to do all at the same time. Let me explain, you are so worried while having intercourse. You want to satisfy her at the same time you want to show her you can take control of the situation. You also want to be recognize as a great lover. All of these thoughts affect the concentration but you'll see how you can control that with the experience. I can assure that because I lived it. Good Luck
There is probably NO reason for someone 16 to take Viagra...this isn't related to a medical problem that would cause erection problems. Our two heads are very connected and it sounds as if this is totally based on a fear of performing or being totally nervous....a very common thing to have happen. Slow down, take the good advice of all the other people who have posted here and you'll be fine....most of us have been there and done this!
I think your anxious, and thinking back to when I was a 17 year old female and about to loose my virginity...it's is completely normal.
Try to relax and enjoy the moment, don't worry about your "performance". This is the first time and you'll never forget it....don't put expectations on yourself...just let go an have fun! Be sure to use protection...a baby or STD at 16 isn't a good idea!
