I have a question. My boyfriend sometimes **** and nothing comes out. Is that normal? I've asked several of my male friends and none of them say this has never happened to them. Could he be "faking" it every once in awhile? Well I've thought that too, but he gets soft immediately afterwards like when he normally ejaculates. Any insight?
recently as in the same day? Sometimes no....Its only happened 3 times and we've been together for 4 months and we have a very healthy sex life, usually 2-3 times a day.....but just occasionally does nothing come out....its odd...but he said its always been like that occasionally. He feels like he came and his body acts normally like when he ejaculates and something comes out, but sometimes nothing does???? You got me??
You have to realize that orgasms and ejacualtion are TWO DIFFERENT things hence they can happen without one or the other. So he could very easily be orgasming without ejaculating.
He can discuss it with his doctor but chances are there isnt anything wrong. But I honestly wouldnt worry since orgasm and ejaculation are two seperate things.
You should encourage him to ask his doctor about this. It may be normal but no matter how many times I may have sex during a finite period of time, something always comes out. It may be a small amount, but something is always there.
Well, I know he doesn't masturbate before I arrive because he lives with me and we were together the entire time before. I just wanted to see if it's happened to anyone else and it seems it hasn't. Hmmmm. He says its been that way his whole life, occasionally nothing comes out or very very little and it's clear, but usually there's nothing.
Due to my husband having had surgery, he has what is called retro-grade ejaculation...NOTHING COMES OUT, EVER!! It goes backward into the bladder and is disposed of when he urinates...I'm not sure if this is something that can happen periodically to a guy, but you may want to do a web search on it to find out or ask his doctor...It's nothing to worry about for us, except that we can't have children w/o fertility intervention...
While I agree that this is common if a guy's recently ***, since the testicles take some time to produce sperm and semen, I agree with WhiteWolf that ejaculation and orgasm seem to be separate things that are usually simultaneous, but not always.
There have been times when I haven't quite been able to get to orgasm, but I've still had some ejaculate released. There have also been a couple of times when I've gotten just to orgasm but it got a little cut short and thus I didn't ejaculate. So, while it seems unusual for it to happen often, I don't really think it's anything to be worried about.
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by some20:
<B>i guess there's something wrong with your guy Shaelynn.. i'm not an expert but judging from what you says, i think you both need to see doc. he knows better...</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
No, there's nothing wrong with him. We did check with the Dr. and he is absolutely normal. It's not frequent it's just like previously mentioned, sometimes there's just no fluid when ejaculation occurs and this happens in some males, sometimes.
"The only ignorant questions, are the one's that remain unasked."
Yeah, actually now that you mention it, it's when he's on his back, but not everytime...it hasn't happened in quite awhile either, but the three times it has happened, he was on his back and I was....well, how do you put it politely? Ah hell, I cant...I was jerking him off. lol <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Anyway, thanks for the insight JeepsWorld! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
"The only ignorant questions, are the one's that remain unasked."
Jeep,have to disagree with you on the best orgasm position. That may work for you because I know with my hubby he has better orgasms on his back or in missionary position. Kneeling and standing orgasms for him are not as intense as the other positions tend to be.
Now I am going to qoute a rather good book about the difference between ejaculation and orgasm. This way people will realize that just because a guy doesnt ejaculate doesnt mean he isnt orgasming or that he is having a light orgasm.
From The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Chapter One Fireworks:Multiple Orgasms For Men Page four,section Orgasm and Ejaculation
To become multi-orgasmic man,you need to understand some basic facts about your anatomy. The most important fact is that orgasm and ejaculation are different. This is so startling to most men(and women)that we need to explain exactly how they are different. Let us begin by defining orgasm and ejaculation. Physiologically,an orgasm is the contration and pulsation that most men feel in their penis,prostate,and pelvic area. It is accompanied by an increased heart rate,breathing rate,and blood pressure and results in a sudden release of tension.
Obviously,orgasm is much more than these rather mechanical physiological changes. It is the peak experience of sex for most people,and it is one of the most intense and pleasurable parts of being human. If you have ever had an orgasm,and almost all men have,you know exactly what we are describing.
Ejaculation,however,is simply a reflex that occurs at the base of the spine and results in the ejection of semen. It is,in short,simply an involuntary muscle spasm.
Granted,it is a pleasurable muscles spasm,but it is a muscle spasm nonetheless. Since so many men have learned to conect all the pleasure of the orgasm with ejaculation,it is important to understand that most of the lightning and thunder that you associate with ejaculation is really what occurs with orgasm-with or without ejaculation.
~~~Here is more info on the next page~~
.... As you remember,boys only start to produce sperm(and therefore the ability to ejaculate) once they enter adolescence,usually around the age of thirteen. However,most boys masturbate before they reach this age. During this time,they experience orgasm without ejaculation.
Many boys continue to masturbate after orgasm,and since they do not ejaculate they maintain their erection. Alfred Kinsey.the pioneering sex researcher,in his famous book Sexual Behavior in the Human Male reported that half of all preadolescent boys(around 12 or younger) were able to experience two orgasms in a row,and almost a third were able to experience five or more one after the other. He concluded that "climax is clearly possible without ejaculation."
..... Kinsey studied older men as well and concluded,"Orgasm may occur without the emission of semen....These males experience real orgasm which they have no difficulty in recognizing,even if it is without ejaculation."
I could go on with more from the book and quote other books as well but I doubt I have enough space to do so.
Here are the four main books that discuss this topic in detail.
The Multi-Orgasmic Male,The Multi-Orgasmic Couple by Chia and Abrams
Sexual Behavior in the Human Male by Alfred Kinsey
Fundamentals of Human Sexuality by Dr. Herant Katchadourian
<p>[This message has been edited by whitewolf95 (edited 02-05-2002).]
There is a way to force your ejaculation back into your bladder. During the moment of orgasm if you press in a spot in your "taint" (between the testies & anus) the ejaculation will actually go into your bladder. I tried this several times many years ago and it worked (I didn't like it very much). I believe some call it in-jaculating, but I'm not sure if there is a medical term for it. I had an orgasm (not as big as normal) but did not ejaculate.
Something similar could be happening to him when he is ejaculating.