ok i need you help guys, heres my problem! ok my b-f is turning 18 and im 16. well i never given a bj....well it was my first time he said he liked it but he didnt "finish" well anyways, another time i was doing it he told me it would be better if i was moving my hand up and down, then i put presure on it like he said. well after 5 mins he told me, do you want me to help you? then he starting jacking off and when he was about to "finish" then i took over. but i hate knowing that he had to help me, i want to be able to give him a bj and not need his help. i feel like my job as a g-f (sexually) i did bad? please tell me what i can to to get him to "finish" without him helping!!!!!!!
please help me!!!!!!
First of all, you're not a bad girlfriend, in fact just the opposite. Communication between the two of you is very important and you allowed him to help you. He's teaching you what he likes. Hopefully it didn't bother him when he "helped" you. But what he did to himself is what he likes. He "knows" what feels good. So he did what felt good. You watched but still don't know exactly what it takes. But what you can do is let him guide you. Either verbally or have him place his hand on top of yours.
Sex is always a learning experiance, and it should be that way. Can you imagine what it would be like if you thought you knew it all and after a few years with the same person, nothing was ever different? That's where communication comes in. He tells you what feels good what doesn't. You tell him what you like and don't like.
But what can you do without allowing him to help? What does he like? What does he want to happen? We can't answer that question because all of us are different. We all like or want different things. But if you still don't want him to help, try different things. Watch his expressions, well, listen to him. if it isn't working try something else. A little more pressure or faster or slower.
But to be honest, allow him to help. At least till you get better at it and he won't want to help you anymore because you're too good. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
Arouse him SLOWLY: don't rush - make him crazy!
Use plenty of saliva, and watch the teeth.
Make your hand an "extension" of your mouth: on the downstroke, engulf his penis and move your hand down to his balls; as you come up, bring your hand(s) up too. (BTW, a shaved shaft and trimmed pubes make the BJ much more comfortable for both of you)
USE YOUR TONGUE: swirl gently around the ridge. Guaranteed to make him moan!
Take breaks - your jaw deserves it ... but don't stop stimulation ... lick him all over ... keep him excited.
As he nears orgasm, keep up steady, rhythmic pressure until he comes.
Last but not least: decide whether you will swallow or not. Discuss this up front, so there are no surprises!
... and when you're done, have HIM do YOU!
Flutterbyqueen. Relax, yes I know it would make you happy to get him off on your own. Most guys can get an orgasm pretty much whenever they like, so I am sure it is not such a big deal to him.
It is a big turn on for a guy that you are doing things for your own pleasure. So learn to love doing it to him and maybe play with yourself while you are giving him felatio. That will turn him on, even if he does not orgasm- just the though of it will get him horny later and he will masturbate having thought of you playing with him, while playing with yourself.
ok well i thank all you guys who responded. but again i need help, from a guys point of view. tell me something one of your girlfreinds have done to you (during a bj) that got you to orgasim or even get aroused. anything!!!! thanks!!!
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by butterflyqueen:
<B>tell me something one of your girlfreinds have done to you (during a bj) that got you to orgasim or even get aroused. anything!!!! thanks!!!</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
<IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> Easy one here, used her hands also. Played with my testicles, the area between those and the anus. And did a prostate massage. Another thing I really like is when she looks me in the eyes. Even though her mouth is busy, she's smiling with her eyes. But once again, what I like or anyone may like may not work for your boyfriend. In fact someof the other answers to this question don't do much for me.
It's best to just keep trying new things and watching him for his reactions.