I need advice on a question that is so very embarassing an I could never talk to a GP or dermatologist about in person.
Im a un-cut(un-circumsized) male in my late teens and due to a masturbation Technique ive been using over the past two years have stretched my foreskin to at least an inch longer than it should be!! when i am flaccid my foreskin is a good inch over the head of my penis and is all wrinkly. Is there any creams or medications I can use to tighten this loose skin ?
This is no doubt the most embarassing thing ive ever shared so please help if you can, and please dont make fun. If you know any online doctors i could ask that would help greatly also.
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I did the same thing. Worst was that I thought I was sending a very clear message to the rest of the world in the showers that I masturbated like hell. Just one look at my elephant trunk and they would know, wouldn't they.
Truth is that many people have long foreskins and I doubt that I really had any real cause for concern. I did not like the look of my penis though. To cut a long story short LOL, I eventually had the courage to be circumcised, which I had wanted all along anyway, and have never regretted it for one second.
I very much doubt that there is any magical cream that will do the trick and I seriously advise you to speak to your GP about it. There may well be something that can be done that does not need to be as radical as my circumcision which was my decision and not the doctor's.
I was really embarrassed to speak to anyone, including friends, GP, parents, or brother about anything to do with my penis. I put it off for more than twenty years, before I had the courage to ask for a circumcision. As it turns out once I had blurted out the question, sweating profusely, I found that my GP was really cool about it. What on earth had I been frightened of? It was nothing. He's seen it all and if he can't handle a simple question about your anatomy then he/she should not be a doctor.
I strongly advise you to see some one; just to be able to talk about it. Do not bottle it up inside you. It will cause you lots of stress.
Honestly, there is no big deal about it. Just take the bull by the horns and speak to your GP.
It sounds like you have had lots of fun with your masturbation.
Honestly, from a Medical/Health perspective, there is nothing wrong with having a little longer foreskin. Many males have this and that is without masturbation. It is unlikely though that masturbation caused all of it. I would imagine most of the reason is due to puberty and the natural progression of your growth.
The only thing I can say is that it is okay to have a slightly long foreskin. The only problem would be when you are unable to retract your foreskin to wash underneath it in a shower. If this is not a problem, then I wouldn't worry about it at all! Just enjoy!
It is unlikely to require a circumcision. And I would imagine that you would not want that really anyway. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
There really is nothing that a Doctor can help you with there ! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
Good luck, keep us informed.
Nurse_oz is a Registered Nurse who works in a Major Paediatric Hospital in Australia
Thanks for trying to help, but I dont think I will ever be able to talk to a doctor about this problem. I am seriously considering getting a circumsision now, but I am only 17 and I cann't do this on my own in private, and what makes it worse is my dad is a doctor, so he will hear about or see into the surgery ! I really want to keep this a secret, I also dont want to wait until im 21 before i can do this on my own.
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hey man chill out. Be thankful for what you have. It probably has nothing to do with the fact that you jack off. Most teens jack off and I am sure their parents expect that they do also. Chances are that your father probably has a similar foreskin. Is his long too like yours? If not then you inherited it from your mom's side. One inch overhang is not too long. As a guy who goes to the gym daily, and sees nude men on a routine basis, I would say you have nothing to worry about. Be glad that you are not circumcised! I wish I wasn't. Don't get circumcised unless you can not retract it. And even in that case, there are several techniques you can do to stretch the skin. It doesn't sound like that is your problem. Don't be embarressed. I am sure your father has seen men with all different sizes and lengths of foreskin. THe fact that he is a doctor should probably make him more understanding. So my advice is to not worry about it, relax, and enjoy the skin you have!!
Whoa buddy, slow down! There is nothing wrong here. I'm uncut and understand some about what you're dealing with here. Foreskins, like penises come in different lengths etc. Some of us have longer foreskin than others, I'm quite a bit older than you, therefore I've masturbated more than you can even think of right now and my foreskin never stretched because of it. Ok, maybe a little, very little bit. Please do not enter into a circumcision decision without all of the facts. Do some intensive research, look at pictures and listen to men who've had it done. Think about this.....do you really want a forceps pulling your foreskin while a scalpel cuts on it? Imagine the pain and healing that takes place afterwards. Sure, it's your penis and your choice but DON'T make any such decision without looking at ALL the information. Also, I know it's tough to think about having a conversation with a doc or having an examination done. But guess what, they see penises all the time, it's their job. And if you can't bring yourself to talk with them about it.....how you gonna let one hold it to cut on it? I'm being a bit rough and I'm sorry. I just hate to see you so upset about something that's part of the equipment, part of who you are (and we are) as guys. Hope some of this helps you sort through your head. Keep in touch with us here as you deal with this. That's why the board is so good, and I can tell you, most of the people here are awesome in their knowledge and ability to help others reason through things!
Thanks to everyone for replying, I am very hopeful that I may be able to find an answer to this problem.
Just to clarify a few things, naturally I would not have this long a foreskin! starting in my early teens ive always used my foreskin during masturbation...without having to go into detail, trust me when I say its my fault and it could have been avoided.
I would like to think of treating this problem as you would stretch marks or any other kind of stretched skin on the body. Thatís why Iím looking for a product that could tighten the skin or heal it over time.
Maybe the nature of this question belongs more in a dermatology board, but you have to understand I would never get a serious response there <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif">. In all politeness to all those great people who want to reassure me this is normal and something I can live with, personally I canít and would like to (restore) my foreskin. This may make me a bad person for thinking this cosmetically but Iím sorry thatís the way I am. I really wish I could be different or even have avoided this problem in the first place but its too late for that now. So please help if you can. Any ideas please ! Iím quite desperate at this point...
In my dealings with Children and Adolescents and having seen many many penises through my work there is anything far from "normal" foreskins. Many boys have long foreskins and many have foreskins which just reach the end of the glans of the penis.
I think it sounds like you are being a little hard on yourself. Another option for you is to seek some counselling whether it be with a Psychiatrist or Psychologist and they may be able to help you work through this obviously stressfuly situation. They won't tell you how to think, nor do they tell you what you need to do, but help you work through the situation and provide support on whatever decision you make.
It may be a good idea to see a Urologist who specialises in this area and they may be able to suggest a solution to your problem whether it be surgical or not. As far as I am aware, I actually haven't had someone complain to me about this problem.
But i would think there is more to it than just a long foreskin. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> Which is why a counsellor may be useful first.
I would urge you to see a counsellor first off. Please remember that when you see a counsellor or doctor or anyone in the health care system, they are obliged to stay confidential and not talk to other people such as your father about it. The only people they may talk to is some of their colleagues who may shed light on the situation and provide solutions. But they won't telll anyone such as your dad if you told them so! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
I doubt a circumcision will resolve the situation that you are experiencing.
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Nurse_oz is a Registered Nurse who works in a Major Paediatric Hospital in Australia
To: flynntodd, Nurse_oz, Lance2, goodman_2001
I greatly appreciated all your responses to my rather awkward topic. Reading your words I truly felt that you cared for my problem, and furthermore gave me a sense of comfort about this problem that I never would have achieved by keeping it bottled up inside myself.
Very soon now I will have my drivers license, and maybe in a couple weeks or months when I have achieved a good degree of privacy and independence I will go out and talk to a doctor about this. I have a very understanding GP that has helped me through a lot so far and I think he will be able understand the level of privacy I would like to keep with this issue. Although the only way I might communicate this is by putting it onto paper, you have convinced me thatís its defiantly worth a shot. If it did get to the point where I was going to request a circumcision, you have my word that I will do as much research and soul searching as I possibly can before coming to a final decision.
Until I get the opportunity to do this, my feelings about solving this problem are still true and I would still like to search for a cure that doesnít require a surgical answer. I know somethings donít always work out like we hope they do, but I and am hoping that there is an answer out there that will work for me.
You are all such great people for spending the time to help me with this. I wish you all the best and hope that someday you will all be rewarded for your kindness.
I'm glad to have been part of a group of obviously caring people who shared thoughts and ideas with you. I am also glad that it sounds as if you considered our words and have begun to forumlate a plan for yourself. Additionally, it is always difficult to talk about and deal with issues related to our "equipment" as this is the most personal part of who we are. I'm glad that you trusted us enough to share those thoughts on the board. Indeed, you've taken a huge step and I suspect your sharing here will make it easier to talk with your GP when the time is right. And by the way, he/she CANNOT discuss your care with anyone unless you are in danger or seriously ill. This is especially true as you reach adulthood at age 18. So, it's your body and your penis. Do with it as YOU want and see fit after careful consideration of ALL options. The main thing I see is that you learn all you can about your equipment, how it works, what works and doesn't for you and most of all that you take care of it and yourself. Good luck, keep in touch for any other questions!
Hey Justin, I too am a 17 yr old uncut male. I didn't have much time to do any more than skim the responses thus far, but I'm pressed on time for now and plan on reading the responses in more detail later. Therefore, forgive me if I repeat something <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
I too had a great insecurity about being uncut or having a, what I thought was, small penis and many other things. Truth is, your insecurity of being uncut is not going to dissapear through some rash action such as getting circumsized. I am not trying to deter you from anything, just help you in making a wiser choice <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> But I've done some in depth research on circumcision and its really not something you want to mess with.
The only cure for you is a change in attitude <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> Appreciate what you have and what you were given. This may seem cheesy, but it is quite effective. I no longer judge myself because I just sat down and thought, "what really is the use in finding flaws in myself? How is that helping me?". Well, it wasn't. And it's not helping you. Lets say you get circumsized, what then? You'll just go and find another flaw on your body and want to fix it in some rash way once again. Its a never ending cycle. Do you really want to spend your adolescence finding flaws on yourself and trying to fix them? 10 years from now, a guy who probably never had a worry about his personal appearance or any other aspect about him will probably look about as much different as a guy who worried constantly and attempted to fix all his bodily flaws. Just think about it Justin. It'll save you a lot of heart-ache. Be happy with what you were given and let it be <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
It may seem hard at first, after all, I can relate. We're in the same boat here <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> Good luck and keep posting!
Yesterday I was online until 3am looking at some sites about circumcision, and the information I got was rather disturbing. I am very lost on this topic it seems there are only extreme viewpoints to look at it from.
From my research I found that there was one site that did a survey of a couple hundred different women and by a great majority, the final results were in favor for circumcised males. Women preferred them for sexual pleasure, cleanliness, overall look... just to name a few. Other sites had many male contributors that told stories about how happy they felt after the operation and how much they got ďmade fun ofĒ in the locker rooms at school. I have always avoided this kind exposure when I workout or change for a swim, and am very thankful my school has individual rooms for upper school students to change in. The most offensive thing I came across was not on an individual site itself, but instead a category named Ďcircumcisioní listed on a website directory called ďthe internet sickest sitesĒ. The sites listed in this directory just contained general information on circumcision and perhaps some pictures of uncut males. It was very hard to find sites that supported leaving the foreskin intact, and when I did they were more religious or naturalistic views.
What makes matters worse for my Ďconditioní is the fact that my penis is a definite grower. Iím a mere 3in flaccid and a 7.5in fully erect/hard. So my you can imagine how disgusting my foreskin looks all wrinkled up when Iím flaccid or fresh out of a pool. But overall, I did manage to get more educated on the topic, and I found out that there are different styles and lengths that a circumcision can be done at. I am no where near a decision yet, I am just trying to sort out all the facts and fiction that I have come across. To Keith, I would be interested in your personal account also. You seem to have a good, balanced understanding of this topic and I would be glad if you shared your views. To JwhyS, please understand that Iím not a perfectionist and not trying to fix everything thatís wrong with my appearance, this is rather a personal problem that means a lot to me and has made me very self-conscious about my sex.
I am glad "Boynextdoor" that you have been able to look through some internet sites although I too have found that a great deal of them are bias either for or against circumcision.
I think you have been wise in researching what you want done. From a medical point of view, I don't know if there is much to do about it. It might be worthwhile looking up some Urology Sites to see what they have to say about extra long foreskins.
Again I stress, sometimes it is advantageous to discuss this with a counsellor who is not a doctor but someone who can provide you with 1 to 1 support!
Nurse_oz is a Registered Nurse who works in a Major Paediatric Hospital in Australia
Do not get circumcised!! You're young....believe me, when you're older, you'll be proud you have the long foreskin. I've been there and had similar feelings when I was a teen but now I love the extra skin.