ok,I'm attracted to girls,i can like/love a girl, ive had sex with girls.I have never been attracted to another guy,i could never like/love a guy but i do enjoy having anal sex with men and giving or receiving oral sex from guys, is that bisexual ?
If you just fantasize about sex with men, this could be an indication of an interest that you wish to deny. However. if you act upon this and actually have sex with a man, even without kissing, especially oral and anal, you are engaged in bi sexual acts.,This is somthing you will have to come to accept or consult with a therapist to resolve your strong desires with refusal to acknowledge your sexual interests.
The standard question: how do you define bisexual? I don't think you are bisexual, but it really depends on what type of definition you want to put on it or even if you want to put any.
Sounds like you're just open to all forms of sexuality and sexual behaviors. Yes, to be sexually active with both sexes means your are performing bisexual behaviors. Just like many of us that have some same sex experiences when we are teens (mutual masturbation oral sex, etc with male friends) are considered homosexual acts, that doesn't mean we are homosexual. Some experimentation is more common than we think. There is so much more to being bisexual or homosexual than the acts of sex involved. You don't give your age, but it could be that you are just enjoying your sexuality. Who really cares "what" orientation you are. I would advise caution though, if you are not using protection (condom) then you could be in trouble when it comes to STD's HIV etc, sounds as if you're doing this with different people. Be careful, there's alot of bad stuff out there! Anal sex can really tear the rectum and lead to all sorts of problems, the worst of which is HIV/AIDS and it is easily transmitted that way with male to male anal intercourse.
I'm curious... You say you enjoy anal sex with men and giving oral sex to men, but are unsure wether you may be bisexual? <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/redface.gif">) If you enjoy sex with both men and women, I think you are definitely bi! I wouldn't worry about it though - just enjoy it whichever sex you are with.
My only question is, why do you enjoy having sex with guys if you are not attracted to them?
If you can suck a guy but can't kiss one, I'd say that's a bit strange. You're probably bi but just have not experimented enough with men to really get into it. You may actually prefer men if you loosened up and let youreslf go. Maybe subconsciously you're afraid of letting loose with a fellow....afraid you might enjoy it too much. That's understandable.
I wouldn't worry about it. I've heard from a lot of people that u r only gay/bi if u could have a relationship with a man. Do u prefer oral sex with men or do u just think of oral sex as oral sex no matter whos giving it??? who cares if your bi anyway!
Bisexual males are mostly concerned with getting off, bluntly. They love the feeling of sexual things, so they go anywhere to get it. Not Uncommon though.
Bisexual females are mostly looking for someone they can trust, they've been with males who have screwed them over so they resort to females.
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<B>Bisexual males are mostly concerned with getting off, bluntly. They love the feeling of sexual things, so they go anywhere to get it. Not Uncommon though.
Bisexual females are mostly looking for someone they can trust, they've been with males who have screwed them over so they resort to females.
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No offense, but that strikes me as an EXTREME generalization. I haven't had really any experience in the area, but c'mon...are you saying that bisexual men are really straight guys who just want to get off? Or that they're just really horny guys that need sex from SOMETHING? And regarding women...I disagree that women become bisexuals just because they've been hurt in the past. Where did you get this so-called information??
I agree that many people these days (particularly women) seem to be experiementing with people of the same sex. I have been on other boards where literally 90% of the teenage girls claim to be "bi" because it really has become somewhat of a fad. Guys like girls who do other girls...plain and simple....and I think girls these days are picking up on that and are pretending to be something they aren't. Don't let people like that cloud your views.
For real, true bisexuals...these are people who love men and women equally in the emotional and physical scopes of a relationship. This is something, I believe, that someone is born with and has nothing to do with being desperate, being bitter, or being bored. If your experience has shown this to be true, you are probably basing these off of heterosexuals who are experimenting around or real bisexuals who you have misjudged.
Those are just my thoughts...I'd be curious to hear some others.
My main concern is are you having safe sex? If you are having anal and oral sex with guys and then having sex with women then you may be exposing yourself and others to risk. Just because you don't consider yourself homosexual does not mean you can't cath HIV or hep B and other nasties. It's just that a lot of guys who don't see themselves as gay don't think they are at risk but engage in high risk behaviour. Anal sex always needs a condom to be safe. Oral sex, though lower risk than unprotected anal, is not 100% safe either, particularly if tooth cavities or gum abrasions are involved. It's not fair on a woman to expose her to high level risk when she thinks you are hetrosexual, have had few sexual partners and are not cheating on her.
'For real, true bisexuals...these are people who love men and women equally in the emotional
and physical scopes of a relationship.'
OK. Here's my situation. I've beem married 30 yrs to the same woman. I have not had affairs with either men or women, though I fantasize constantly about men.
I am sexually attracted to men. I enjoy sex with my wife. I know I could have sex with men if I chose to.
I don't. That would be cheating. In my teens, I experimented briefly with 2 guys at different times. Otherwise, I have had sex only with women.
So waddaya think ... gay? straight? bi?????
Marco, I wouldn't put a label on yourself such as Straight, Gay, Bi..... honestly I think you are curious. If you have an open relationship with your wife, why not discuss this with her. Tell her you are madly in love with her, and completely enjoy your sex lives together, but you have this curiosity about men. Ask her what she thinks.
As for Tonybsd....... I HIGHLY disagree with you. I can't speak for the men, but I can for some women. I am truely bisexual, and I ALWAYS have been. Since kindergarten I remember being attracted to women and men alike. I have had just as many long term relationships with women as I have with men. I have NOT been hurt by men in the past and run to women for comfort. Maybe you should do a little more research before you generalize the way you have.
I have an extrememly open family... they wouldn't care whether I was straight, gay or bi. They love me any way I come. So it was easy for me to explore sexually without feeling dirty or bad. My parents knew about my girlfriend when I was 15, and they were fine with it. They accepted our relationship, just like any other. I feel that in a way everyone is curious about the same sex since birth. I do not think it is something you learn or unlearn. Some people act on their desires, and others don't, bottom line.
Nobody is WRONG for their sexual preference, it's just who they are, like it or not. Live your own life the way you feel is best. Thats all for now.
Why would safe sex only be a concern, or be more of a concern, if he were involved with men? There are dangers no matter what a person's sexual experiences are or may be. Multiple partners at the same time, regardless of gender, is a high risk behavior.
