When I reach orgasm my wife (she noticed this when we dated) says that I ejaculate way too much and she complains of the mess.
I never thought I was a freak or anything but no matter how often we have sex, I just seem to have plenty to spare.
Question 1...why does this bother her?
Question 2....what makes me different than the normal guy she seems to compare me to?
All of us ejaculate different amounts, don't know why she is so freaked but I do know this. The more you ejaculate, the less semen there may be available from one to the next. I'd try masturbating more and see if that reduces the amount. You might even try masturbating and then just a bit later having sex to see if that helps. Hey, maybe she'd want to help...or would that be too much of a mess? I have no clue why she thinks this, its certainly the only time it has come up (no pun intended!) on this board!
I doubt you are ejaculating too much. The average is two teaspoons full. Granted like Lance it will vary from person to person.
Now has your wife thought that some of the mess is from her. Women can get quite wet during sex...heck I am even talking about personal experience here. My hubby thinks it is so funny when I get really aroused because he isnt the one leaving the wet spot on the bed...I am. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif">
So really it might be both of you. So dont worry over it so much. Try talking to her and find out why this bothers her so much. OR use a condom(I know dreadful thing for a married guy) to see if that helps...who knows you might find out that she is helping with the "mess" she complains about.
heheheheh!!!...thanks!! but really though...
Her mind set is not really being mad, she is just tired of changing the darned sheets.
I tell her if she wanted the problem to go away she should make herself more available.
I have gone to the doc and he said my prostate is a bit larger than the norm. The first exam he said it was enlarged, ran some tests,...they all came back normal. 6 months later, I go back to the doc, he puts on the dreaded gloves...and he found it was still the same size..and he concluded that the size was MY size, or NORMAL for me. He said it wasnt rough, or overly large, just a little bigger than most.
Can a bigger prostate cause this?
I am very sexually active, and I do masturbate at least once per day just to keep the appetite down. It really doesnt matter how often I do this, I still resemble a fountain every time.
The enlarged prostate alarmed me more than the symptom and I hope he GUESSED right on this matter.
Thanks again for the suggestions.
I find this interesting because in my case, it was my ex-husband who was concerned about the mess. I would have to go get a towel before we had sex so we could clean up right away. Pretty funny how he would want the towel stuffed between us before we "unlocked" ourselves. (this is a man who refused to use condoms, saying it was the woman's responsibility to not get pregnant)
My current boyfriend is the opposite. He even tells me that he will gladly lie in the wet spot
Everything I have ever read says two teaspoons is the average. This includes quite a few books and a lot of websites. I have never seen one teaspoon quoted as average so I am more inclined to believe two.
I don't usually interject on this board, but I have to say from a ladies point of view... hogwash. 1 tsp my foot!!! I have seen it on my tummy, leg, *** ... bed, mouth... you name it, and there are many men that do have more... on a regular basis (and I am a cook, I know what a teaspoon is) My ex averaged right under a tablespoon (we measured it... why? no clue) It really depends on the man, and occasionally can depend on how long it has been since he last ejaculated. I know at times, it can feel like it is a CUP! but of course, that is not going to happen... of course my favorite boyfriend was the one that averaged about a tsp <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> Just a woman's input here, i think most of the studies were done with men sitting in little rooms being stimulated visually, I think maybe (no professional here) that stimulation via intercourse or orally, could produce a larger amount. Anyways... who cares, tell your lady that she should be lucky you can ejaculate!!! The messier the better <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/love2.gif">
A suggestion...instead of messing her inside and getting the 'drip', pull out and squirt on her tummy. I had an old girlfriend who would drip for a day (or so she said)..this solved the problem and made for easy cleanup. Basically squirt and put it back in to enjoy the rest of the moment.